Disabled Not Dumb

I believe we are all given problems in life so we can prove we are strong enough to get through them to enjoy the happier times.

The majority of the time I’m laughing the day away with a positive mind. I have been handed a pretty crap hand over the last few years and of course there are days when I don’t feel as strong and its just me, my hot water and bed.  Of late there are people that make the situation I’m in – In a wheelchair rather annoying and sad.

Here are some of the things that that people say:

  • Asking my Mum “Is she ok?” – I’m sat right here they can ask me
  • “You don’t want to be in there all your life” – damn right I don’t
  • “Can’t you just do more exercise?” – if only it was that easy
  • “I’m so sorry you poor thing” – no pity needed, it doesn’t help

Also when going on the bus some of the bus drivers aren’t helpful in the slightest and just expect you to do wheelies on and off the bus, the ramp was put in for a reason. There’s been a handful of times I’ve cried cos I have felt useless because I just can’t get on and off the bus like everyone else.

I guess there is always going to be ignorant assholes and I’ve just got to grin and bear it.

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I am not my disability and I hope that others can see that too instead of treating me like that’s all that I am. The majority of people are lovely its the minority that ruins it.

Thanks for reading and I’ll see you in a happier post next time.

 

Don’t be so cruel

A message to all people who think its ok to knock someone down just because they are different.

Read the whole thing including the quotes too

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You should never be frowned upon for the colour of your skin, the shape of your body or the colour of your hair.

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This is a beauty spot and a cute little heart

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But people turn their noses up or turn their backs when they see less than ‘their idea of perfection such as a birthmark or freckles on the face.

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 and should people be hated on for who they choose to love?

Of course not…

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People all over the world decide they are going to be cruel to somebody behind their computer screens

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When in fact it’s exactly the same as saying it to somebody face to face..

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It still hurts the same.

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No, you should never hate yourself and no one should ever make you feel like that.

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Do not troll in person, and don’t troll online, this is the only troll you should ever see.

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Please feel free to share this post to make people aware.

Much loves and thank you for reading xx

 

Five Planner Essentials

Today I thought I would talk you through these helpful things that help me plan a bit better than just plain old pen and paper.

I want you to know this, you can use these 5 essentials for anything in life not just blogging.

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AN A3 WHITEBOARD

I bought this in Whsmiths sometime last year for £6.99 I think I am pretty sure they still will be in there now. I have used a piece of pink card cut up into how many topics I want to cover wrote on with a sharpie to stand out and stuck on with magnetic tape which you can buy from Amazon for under a fiver.  I find that when I am planning blog posts I can bring down the relevant one and do a spidergram with all my ideas. I really do find it really handy. I then either take a pic on the phone of my ideas and add to OneNote or write it in a book.

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A DIY TO DO LIST

I made this to help me stay on track with what I had to do whether it was blog related or not it, and its super helpful. Write your thing to do on the tape and stick it up there on the board, when its done take it down..simple. I bought the mini clipboard from good old Wilkos The sticky blackboard paper and coloured tape from Amazon. These are two places I love to get my stationary from as its so cheap.

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A SELECTION OF NOTELETS AND WEEKLY PLANNER SHEETS

When out shopping and I come across notelets or weekly planners you can guarantee I’ve grabbed one or the other off the shelf and shoved it in my basket. They are great if you have an idea but don’t want to use up a whole sheet of paper or don’t have your technology to hand. The prettier they are sometimes you don’t want to use them. I got the first one in the sale in Primark for £3 possibly less, and the last two in HomeSense.I wish these had online stores, I would be penniless and many of you too.

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A NOTEBOOK FOR LITERALLY ANYTHING

I bought this years ago but I can’t remember where, and I didn’t write in it as I thought I want it to be organised and just about one thing when in fact the list on the front said it all write all sorts in there. So that’s what I have started to do. If you want to keep it in some sort of order then adapt it to your needs with an index, washi tape for marked pages, however, you wish.

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AN INSPIRATION PINBOARD 

Go pick up a large pinboard from your local supermarket or stationery store, open up Pinterest and look for some inspiration that’s going to keep you going when you are writing.  These are a few I printed out a few months ago and I do need to add a few more. You could make it into a vision board, put all your notes on it, photographs of people that make you smile or your cat or dog…you really can use it for anything.

There you have it I thought I would stick to 5 as I could have gone on and on. I’d love to hear what things you use to plan/organise yourselves.

Have a fab day and thanks for reading

Til next time…

hol

Clinique Chubby Sticks

I actually went out yesterday shopping what felt like the first time in forever. I guess because we have such luxuries as online shopping the high street sometimes gets neglected.

So we happened to stumble into this makeup store and I was only nosing and didn’t intend on buying anything as I am a bit like miss money penny I look after my money usually and only spend if I really do need it….or need cheering up.

well, these just jumped off the shelf and straight into my hands.

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They are Clinique chubby sticks I was completely sold when I saw the shades being a total pinkaholic it was a 4 gone conclusion they were coming home with me.

It was my first thing I had ever had from Clinique apart from the odd freebie in a magazine. It was in an Outlet store so the price was £24 instead of £35 so it worked out £8 pounds a chubby stick so, to be honest, it wasn’t that bad for the purse. Plus it’s not as if I buy high-end products all the time.

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  • So you have 05 Plushest Punch which is an intense colour and is inbetween a pink and a red
  • Then 06 Woppin’ Watermelon which is a toned down pink so you have some colour but not too in your face.
  • Finally 03 Budding Blossom which is more of a pink shine so for those days when you just want a tiny moisture and pinkiness

I am really impressed with them and can’t wait to wear them more.

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Just remember this – Never come between a girl and her lipstick.

Hope you are all having a fab weekend so far. Thanks for stopping by 💋

Til next time…

hol

My typical day

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When my alarm goes off I really do struggle to get out of my snuggly warm bed I am good though i will only snooze it once occasionally twice before I get my bum out of bed and make some breakfast. I am one of those that can’t go without breakfast I think its when I was younger I was told it was the most important meal of the day and that’s now instilled in my head.

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Off I go and get myself ready for the day whether its a day in or out I think its best to get ready first thing, I usually do a deep cleanse the night before, so I make sure my skin is prepped for my makeup and the rest of me squeaky clean too.

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I am quite routine with my makeup I am not too adventurous so it takes me about 15 mins tops. I look like I have some on but not too made up. I save that for special occasions. That’s when I need to watch the youtube tutorials for tips.

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I get myself dressed and more than likely since I am a home bird I am in for the majority of the day so I grab all my technology bits such as my laptop, mobile and headphones. This is where I will do some blogging, online shopping or watch some youtube or Netflix.

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Being a typical woman I have some days where I am waiting for a parcel to turn up with some goodies in that takes forever to get here. Why couldn’t the driver be psychic and know I hate waiting and deliver to me first.

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I of course have my lunch and I must confess I am a bit of a chocoholic so I snack on whatever chocolate bar I fancy on that day. A little bit of what you fancy does you good or so I’ve been told.

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I do love my music I can’t go a day without listening to it so out come the earphones and on goes Spotify. I love how you can get lost in a song or an album and travel back in time. Sometimes I do take the odd selfie if I am feeling really good about how I look, self-love is good for you anyway.

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After my tea when I am watching the soaps or some documentary I grab myself an Ovaltine or hot chocolate. I am not that much of a hot drink person apart from these two. It helps me settle down for the night.

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Then off I go to bed and I generally have a nosey on social media and have a quick chat with my friends on there then its lights out and to the land of nod.

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There you are that’s my typical day

All of the above is adapted due to needing a wheelchair most of the time but I do what I can the best I can.

Thanks for stopping by to read my post

Til next time….

hol

He loves me, he loves me not

I’m sat here with soppy love songs blasting out of my iPhone, this playlist to be exact…

Takes me back to my school days of writing ‘Holly 4 Tom 4eva’ on my rough book, doing he loves me loves me not with a daisy and getting super excited when it landed on he loves me. The crushes on the older lads that you could only ever dream or write about. There’s plenty of entries in my diaries in the 90s of days I saw my crush and how my heart skipped a beat and all that crap…its so funny thinking back at it now.

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However, I didn’t have a proper boyfriend until year 10. He was also who I lost my virginity to which was not how I planned to do it and be slightly underage but peer pressure got to me and well it happened…thought I was pregnant and told my Mum. Ooo the disappointment…soon after I told her my period came on the bloody irony literally.

I wrote about my love life here if you fancy a read…

I am however very single at the moment. I know what I want in a relationship – its just I need to find someone who can accept that yes my legs don’t work properly 90% of the time and I need loving that little bit more, who enjoys snuggling up but equally go on fun adventures..oh dear this sounds like I’m making an ad for a dating site…i’ll stop now haha.

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Tomorrow is Valentines Day and I hope you enjoy it whether you are happily single or with someone who makes your world rock.

It’s been nice reminiscing. People say don’t look back but some of your most favourite memories are there.

Til next time…

hol

 

A Random Q and A

it’s Saturday morning, it’s peeing down outside, how English…

Anyways I thought I would do a very laid back post today and find some questions from good old Pinterest to answer. Some may be quite interesting others may be a bit random, its all a bit of fun so let’s begin.

What did you want to be when you were younger?

I wanted to be an author. I wanted to write from a young age and my dream has come true. My book is now on Amazon.

which friends character do you relate to the most?

I would have loved to of said Rachael but I am going to have to say Phoebe because of her randomness.  I like her can’t sing to save my life but give it a good try.

whats your favourite accent?

I absolutely love the Irish accent. On a weekly basis, you would hear me and my mum saying words in an Irish accent. I find it funny that they don’t really pronounce TH. I like the welsh too but an Irish man talking just melts me.

Do you have any scars?

I have 3 keyhole scars from my gallbladder removal 10 years ago, a big scar from my bladder reconstruction surgery from 3 years ago. oooo and from troublesome skin, I have some scarring on my cheeks. All scars have a story.

Favourite swear word?

I am going to say fuck. I have after all the years of writing fuck on a text message and it comes up duck I have it sorted…put it in your phone book. no number needed and your phone won’t get it mixed up. I don’t condone swearing all the time just when it’s needed.

Whats your guilty pleasure?

I think most of my friends and readers know I have a weakness for silver foxes also even though he isn’t grey I love a bit of Colin Firth. Who doesn’t?

What are you wearing?

A pink cropped hooded jumper, black leggings, Disney socks, an oversized scarf and a hot water bottle…yes I am wearing it. it’s never too far away.

Favourite boys and girls name?

I love the name Frankie for a boy and Lola for a girl…i actually would change my name to Lola if I could.

Favourite movie ever

Bridget obviously….closely followed by Dirty Dancing and Now and Then…all very quotable I could watch them over and over again without getting bored.

A celebrity you can’t stand?

I can’t stand Michael Macintyre simply because I really don’t like a comedian who laughs at his own jokes before the audience has. Give me Mickey Flanagan any day.

Ever skinny dipped?

No never skinny dipped but I definitely wouldn’t say no…something about just being free and in the sea, it’s like a ginormous bath without the bubbles.

Do you like yourself?

I didn’t use to say 2 or 3 years back.I didn’t like looking in the mirror for too long and didn’t like my body shape but I am learning to love myself and all of my flaws. I am much more body positive these days,

There you have it a get to know me in question form. I probably will do more of these at some point they get your mind thinking.

Have a fab weekend

Til next time…

hol