34 things I have learnt in 34 years

Since I have just turned 34 I thought it would be good to tell you some things I have learnt in those years that I think are lessons for life and can apply to anyone of any age too.

Feel free to take note of these on paper or your phone

Ok so let’s jump right in

1. Not to be afraid of where you live

2. Nobody is perfect

3. Time stops for nobody

4. Never judge someone by face value

5. Take life one step at a time, don’t rush it.

6. Older people have valuable advice…that’s why they get called wise owls

7. Never feel pressured, stand your ground

8. Memories are so very precious, go make them

9. Sometimes it’s worth risking it for a chocolate biscuit

10. Always be proud of who you are

11. Cluttered rooms means cluttered mind

12. Be the friend you’d like to have

13. The first person you fall in love with should always be yourself

14. True friend stand the test of time and distance

15. Budgeting your money will help you in the long run

16. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice

17. Document…so you can look back at a later date and reflect

18. Say yes more

19. Spend time with your loved ones…share the love

20. Don’t lose that bit of your inner child

21. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok

22. You are not defined by a number

23. Finding out what love and heartbreak feels like and learn from it

24. Thoughts are powerful so make them positive

25. Nobody has their shit together 100% of the time

26. It’s never too late to learn a new skill

27. It’s best to have a handful of great friends than lots of half ass friends

28. Take time for you

29. Don’t ever try to fit in, you were born to stand out

30. Use your creativity and run with it as far as it will go

31. Remember how fortunate you are

32. Life is not a goal it’s a journey

33. Laughter is the best medicine / therapy

34. If it’s not ok it’s not the end

I have so many lessons that I literally would be here all day typing away. Please know that in life you need to have picked up things along the way that makes you think yes that makes so much sense, and then apply them accordingly.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Bullied for being me

After watching the tear jerking documentary with little mix Jesy Nelson ‘odd one out’ it didn’t half bring back all the feelings of what happened to me.

Life from the age of 11 was not how I envisioned it to be. I guess starting puberty that early didn’t help.

I was pretty much the only one for a few years that suffered with acne which of course made me the target for name calling and just making me feel like shit.

I had even a group of so called friends turn on me and taunt me inside of school and out. Our phone had to be unplugged as they were prank phoning every time you put it down for about 5 hours a day of a weekend 😔 it was horrendous looking back

These would in turn be the ones who beat me black and blue 2 weeks before my exams. My prom photos weren’t the ones I wished for as my face was still too sore for make up.

It took a good 5 years to actually get them out my head and life. But I don’t know why it still happens daily to people. It’s just not called for and it makes me so fierce when you see people take their lives because of it.

Bullies are just insecure about their own lives and instead of facing their problems they make sure someone else is miserable too.

My advice is to never suffer in silence. You deserve a happy life so don’t be made to feel miserable in the process.

FEATURE FRIDAY WEEK 3

This is a mental health special of feature Friday. Read below these wonderful girls stories and why they love blogging

Helen from Helen loves

I hope the blog is a cosy, positive space, promoting wellbeing and self-reflection. I spent years letting anxiety and a lack of self-confidence get in the way of achieving my goals. Now, I’m all about finding tips and tricks to declutter your mind, create positive routines and boost confidence, so you can live the life you love.

HELENS BLOG helenloves.co.uk.

INSTAGRAM : www.instagram.com/_helenloves

TWITTER www.twitter.com/_helenloves

Nyxie from Nyxies Nook

I’m a mental health blogger who focuses on eating disorder recovery, depression, anxiety and general wellness of the self. The blog was started in March 2019 in a bid to raise awareness for mental illness such as Anorexia Nervosa and Anxiety, two such disorders I suffer from. However, what started out as a hobby, quickly turned into something much, much more!

Nyxie’s Nook has become a place to talk about all mental health issues and the struggles that come along with recovery. I cover a variety of subjects ranging from general wellness right up to more specific recovery-related content. I not only aim to cater to those in recovery but to people in all walks of life.

THE BLOG www.nyxiesnook.com

Twitter – twitter.com/nxyiesnook

FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/nyxiesnook

INSTAGRAM :www.instagram.com/nyxtrix

PINTEREST www.pinterest.co.uk/nyxiesnook

Leo from The anxious teach two

My blog is all about my very honest journey of battling my Mental Health diagnosis of anxiety and depression. I talk openly about the ups and downs of MH. I now work as a MH advocate as well as working full time as a teacher.

BLOG theanxiousteachtwo.home.blog

INSTAGRAM Instagram.com/leoooooallen

TWITTER: Twitter.com/theanxiousteac2

Watch out for who I have next Friday

FEATURE FRIDAY WEEK 2

Here is Em introducing herself and her blog

Hi, I’m Em. After not reading much for the past few years I decided to set myself a challenge for 2019. This challenge was to read 25 books in the year. So far at the time of writing this, we are 8 months in I am on 79 books. My blog is a place where I review and talk everything books. I’m fairly new to it (couple of months) but I’m really enjoying it and am starting to trail new ideas.

A few facts about me:
– I own (currently) over 640 books
– I have not read Harry Potter yet, hopefully this will change soon (please don’t hate me)
– I mainly only buy second hand books

YOU CAN FIND EMS BLOG HERE: Em and her books

THE REST OF HER SOCIAL LINKS ARE HERE ON LINKTREE: Em and her books

Secondly we have Paige Bowen from Paige B writes

My name is Paige. I am 20 years and about to go into my second year at Brunel university for creative writing. I’ve had a blog since 2016 but recently completely rebranded to what it is now. I am a makeup lover and am hoping to start up makeup business of my own at some point this year. I also love reading and am in the process of writing my own novel.

YOU CAN FIND PAIGES BLOG HERE: Paige B Writes

HER INSTAGRAM LINK IS: Paige B Writes

HER TWITTER LINK IS: Paige B Writes

Nexts Friday I’ll have more blog featured so keep an eye out.

FEATURE FRIDAY WEEK 1

Last year I had the idea of featuring some bloggers and giving them a shout out so I thought I’d bring it back this year

Starting off my Feature Friday series we have

All things Gee

Gees blog is a little escape for her and hopefully those who read it. It is mostly a blog full of book reviews, she also love makeup and beauty. It contains the odd theatre review aswell

Social media links:

Insta: Allthingsgeexo

Blog: allthingsgee.blog

Twitter: AllthingsGeexo

I really think you should go give her blog a nosey and give it some love

Secondly we have….

House of Kesar

Marion is a lifestyle and fashion blogger based in Nairobi. She mostly blogs about things in her niche that she loves and thinks will be helpful to others.

Blog: Houseofkesar.com

Pinterest: House of kesar

Instagram: House of kesar

Twitter: @House_of_kesar

Facebook: iamhouseofkesar

You know what to do go give Marion your support.

Look out next Friday for more bloggers you can find out about and follow.

Til then my loves

Beautiful them beautiful me

I just wanted to do a quick post today.

I could look at these two pics I have of Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe and compare the shit out of how beautiful they are and how so many people including myself think they are the ultimate beauty icon, Which they are.

But instead I look at this pic and see the beauty in myself, maybe not perfect but I appreciate all that I am even when my skin is not flawless like theirs I can still be as beautiful as I want to feel.

Til next time

A little celebration

3 years ago I decided to embark on my blogging journey.

To be honest I wasn’t sure what I was going to write or if anyone was going to be interested in hearing what little me had to say.

❤️ Turns out I’ve shared my health problems and the ups and downs of them.

❤️ In turn that’s made me a more positive person and I love to share those positive vibes and help anyone out who’s feeling down as I’ve been there once upon a time.

❤️ I’m a right girly girl so of course there was going to be beauty and a bit of fashion thrown in for good measure.

❤️ If I have some tips to get you through everyday life of course I’m going to share. All have been tried and tested. I’d never tell you to try something I hadn’t already.

❤️ Love me a monthly favourite looking back at the month just been and what bits and pieces have made me smile.

❤️ Growing up I never loved myself so now I’m older I really urge anyone to love who they are and it doesn’t make you vain or stuck up. So you’ll find me always spreading the self love message.

Here are a few blog posts I thought I’d add in so you can have a nosey

HOW DO YOU BLOG?

20 THINGS YOU NEED TO START DOING

DIARIES VS BULLET JOURNALS

DISABLED NOT DUMB

DAD I’LL NEVER GIVE UP ON YOU

MY ANXIETY TIPS

Also without all of you supporting me by reading my blog it wouldn’t keep me going.

Writing is my passion so having HOLZIELOVES is really an outlet for whatever comes into my head that I fancy sharing.

Much loves, you keep up your journeys too

Til next time