Category Archives: journaling

34 things I have learnt in 34 years

Since I have just turned 34 I thought it would be good to tell you some things I have learnt in those years that I think are lessons for life and can apply to anyone of any age too.

Feel free to take note of these on paper or your phone

Ok so let’s jump right in

1. Not to be afraid of where you live

2. Nobody is perfect

3. Time stops for nobody

4. Never judge someone by face value

5. Take life one step at a time, don’t rush it.

6. Older people have valuable advice…that’s why they get called wise owls

7. Never feel pressured, stand your ground

8. Memories are so very precious, go make them

9. Sometimes it’s worth risking it for a chocolate biscuit

10. Always be proud of who you are

11. Cluttered rooms means cluttered mind

12. Be the friend you’d like to have

13. The first person you fall in love with should always be yourself

14. True friend stand the test of time and distance

15. Budgeting your money will help you in the long run

16. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice

17. Document…so you can look back at a later date and reflect

18. Say yes more

19. Spend time with your loved ones…share the love

20. Don’t lose that bit of your inner child

21. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok

22. You are not defined by a number

23. Finding out what love and heartbreak feels like and learn from it

24. Thoughts are powerful so make them positive

25. Nobody has their shit together 100% of the time

26. It’s never too late to learn a new skill

27. It’s best to have a handful of great friends than lots of half ass friends

28. Take time for you

29. Don’t ever try to fit in, you were born to stand out

30. Use your creativity and run with it as far as it will go

31. Remember how fortunate you are

32. Life is not a goal it’s a journey

33. Laughter is the best medicine / therapy

34. If it’s not ok it’s not the end

I have so many lessons that I literally would be here all day typing away. Please know that in life you need to have picked up things along the way that makes you think yes that makes so much sense, and then apply them accordingly.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Fierce Female Friday

For a month on a Friday I am going to be featuring some awesome women on a little series called fierce female Friday…

I thought I’d start off with me..

1. What makes you feel powerful?

Being able to have my own mind, create my own happiness, and wear what the hell I like. Being unique/one of a kind.

2. What 3 strong women do you look up to?

My mum of course, she takes everything in her stride. She has to put up with me too ha ha.

Stacey Solomon, she has worked so very hard to get to where she is today. She’s an inspiration. If you don’t follow her Instagram you really should.

My hospital nurse Rachel, who’s been through all my surgeries with me and helped me in between. She works so hard and is passionate about her job. She’s one in a million.

3. What advice would you give to someone needing to find their inner fierceness?

Stand up and be counted, never let anyone quieten you. Don’t let anything keep you down for too long. Life is for being the best version of you so go out there and kick some ass….not literally 🙈

Please look out for next week’s fierce female.

Lots of love, have an awesome weekend xxx

Those so called friends

Do you have those people who you know will be at the end of the phone… If you ring them / message or knock on THEIR door.

But no way would they go out of their way to fit you into their day.

Don’t be made a fool of, or walked over. They’ll make you a laughing stock of you without you knowing.

Be with the ones who will change their plans if you needed them.

The ones who laugh along with you, because they love spending time with you.

Prioritise your people accordingly

Til next time 😘

I miss…

Things that are missing from my life that I wish weren’t.

I miss not being invited out, its nice to he asked even if you don’t feel well enough it’s the thought.

I miss those no longer here anymore, my big brother especially. All I have is photos and memories in my mind.

I miss being able to go out on road trips with my dad. Why did dementia have to take that away?

I miss being able to work and have a bit more of a busier day and something to talk/moan about lol

I miss being able to walk to town, or anywhere for that matter. A little bit around the house is as much as I get to do on good days, the rest is in the wheelchair.

With all of these things missing I always make the best of every day because I just can’t let it get me down, as I’d be no good to anyone.

Its not dwelling, just observing.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Chill the F out

As I write this I have plonked my headphones on and put some acoustic music on so I can get into the zone.

So many of us stress out about so many situations there really isn’t any need if you just chill the F out.

Firstly I have changed my laptop screen photo to this kanako sketch.

Seeing the word Namaste always gets me into a more chilled state. It’s only a word I know but I totally think words are pretty powerful.

I need to help my mum with a few things before tea. After my tea though I will start to get into my zen place.

Firstly I’m going to light a candle, I got this vanilla marshmallow one from the body shop that smells devine.

Then I’m going to get my planner and get all plans I need to do for the week noted down. I don’t want to forget about the important stuff.

I may put a nice soothing face mask on and just be… You know what I mean, where you don’t worry about anything for that 15 mins that your face mask is setting. Yeah that feeling.

You may have a different way of chilling out – for instance: PJs, Movies and snacks.

No way is right or wrong just make sure you take time out of your day/week to unwind and chill.

I hear there is more sun on the horizon so go enjoy

Til next time

Day in the life…

I say day in the life, this isn’t a typical day it’s what happened today.

I had to get up super early as we are having our ensuite made into a wet room so I can manoeuvre about a bit as our shower was tiny and when my mobility is crap it wasn’t very practical. So the work men have been in since Monday.

Mum had to wash my hair over the sink in the kitchen this morning, luckily it’s short and doesn’t take too long.

Then mid morning I had to go have some blood tests as after the op I had they need to do it every 3-4 months to keep an eye. I’m also getting tested for diabetes as I’ve not been feeling full par of late and a few symptoms of type 2 are what I’m experiencing. I’ll let you know what that outcome is.

So naughty I know but mum treated me and her to a chippy lunch. We normally have one naughty day and that was today. It was really yummy.

My anxiety and chronic fatigue has been playing up lately so I took myself up to my room this afternoon and just led on top of my bed and tried to zone out… Bit hard with the banging from the work men but it’ll be worth all the noise.

Still wearing this smile at the end of the day.

Gonna say nighty night and I hope you all have had a great day.

Til next time

I am someone who…

For old readers and new i thought this would be an easy read and since its baking hot today it’ll just be what comes to mind, as i love to blog and publish on the same day. like keeping it fresh…so here goes

I AM SOMEONE WHO

LOVES : Spending time with others who make me feel alive (happy, giggly and loved)

HATES : Backstabbers, gossips and fakery – they are just the worst

CANT: Go a day without eating either cheese or chocolate…oh or mayo

CAN: be there for those who need me and perk someone up when they are feeling down.

WILL NEVER: Give up when my illness is trying to irritate the hell out of me.

HAS: Been on a rough journey through life (bullying, sexual abuse, divorce of parents, lost my brother and chronic illness) and still i smile though it all.

CANT WAIT TO: Get my writing head back on and write and publish a book suitable for everyone – self help me thinks

HAS NEVER: Tried drugs, i mean each to their own but it doesn’t float my boat or appeal to me in any way.

WISHES: There was a cure for Cancer and Dementia as its two of the most cruelest diseases ever.

TRIED: To learn to drive but i had bad anxiety and just lost all confidence. Give me a road with nobody else driving on it and i’ll be fine.

USUALLY FORGETS: what i go upstairs for, then come back downstairs to then remember. so annoying.

WILL PROBABLY END UP: that old bird with a pink rinse and probably a perm.

IS THANKFUL FOR: all the thoughtful people i have in my life, the roof i have over my head and the things we all take for granted like our phones and laptops.

Anyway, there you have it, i guess you know me a little better than you did before.

Til next time