Things you can control

In life there are some things you can’t control but there are plenty of things you can.

Here are a few below to digest

 

Your beliefs

Your attitude

Your thoughts

Your perspective

How honest you are

Who your friends are

What books you read

How often you exercise

What food you eat

What risks you take

How kind you are

How often you say I love you

How often you say thank you

How you express your feelings

Whether or not you ask for help

How many times a day you smile

The amount of effort you put into things

How much money you spend

How much time you spend worrying

How often you think about the past

Whether you judge someone or not

Whether to try again

How to appreciate the things you do have

I hope this gives you some food for thought

Til next time

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Standing up to a bully

After 17 years – that’s how long since I left school you would think that bullying may have been a thing of the past. To be honest I think it’s got 10 times worse.

I was sadly a victim of bullying from alot of my year at school all because my skin wasn’t clear. I was verbally abused and then come the end of school physically.

It won’t ever leave me, but I always think I never want anyone else to have the sadness and pain I did. I know in reality that there will be thousands in the world who will feel the same pain.

Here is how you can spot a cactus friend – those that pretend to be your friend then stab you in the back…and a flower friend – the ones who truly love you and love to see you bloom.

They say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a bully. If you feel strong enough inside to stand up for yourself then don’t let someone walk all over you. But in turn don’t be horrible and become a bully in the process.

Bullying doesn’t just doesn’t happen when you’re young… People of any age fall victim and its so very sad. Cyber crime is on the up as people find it an easy way to target the vulnerable.

If we keep speaking about anti bullying, and looking after ourselves and our friends maybe one day it’ll be something we don’t have to worry about.

The return of the fringe

I was looking through some old photos of myself and it seems that the fringe has been a love hate relationship.

However I wanted to look at the ones of me with longer hair with one so I can decide what I’m going to do with my mop once it gets to that length.

So this is 2008 and I think that a boyfriend I was with at the time saw a old pic of me with a fringe and said I looked ‘hot’ with one so I went and got one, safe to say when he dumped me I pinned it back and grew it out 🙈

This next one was 2014. I had grown my bob that was blonde to above my shoulders and thought I’d dye it brown and bring back the fringe. I think in this pic I look younger than I did in the first. I think I got fed up of getting it trimmed and it went…again.

This is me today 2019 for future readers. This is a £20 amazon wig. I’m actually really digging it. It’s very close to natural colour so I can dream of when it’s this length. I may brave it and wear it out, well my theory is its gonna keep my ears warm in the winter.

Have you had any hairstyles that just keep creeping back in?

Random Q and A

I love a little Q and A, get to know people/yourself.

Found on good old Pinterest I picked a few from a list, so here goes.

1. Crush? Well I’m a bit old for crushes but there is one man I like to swoon over every time I see him 😍

2. Eye colour? Green, with a tiny bit of brown at the top. I get a lot of compliments on them.

3. Last time I cried? Watching someone die of cancer on a soap ( a week ago)

4. Biggest fear? Its a toss up of moths and sick (Eww to both)

5. Last song I listened to? Taylor Swift – Bad Blood. Was on one of my playlists on Spotify.

6. Relationship Status? Single, it’ll have to take an amazing person to change that.

7. Are you currently happy? No I’m scared I have the dentist in a few hours that includes alot of drilling. Must take earphones.

8. Favourite colour? If you haven’t guessed already by the theme of the blog it’s pink… Been obsessed since I was about 12. If its pink I’m having it.

9. Pet peeves? Chamming (eating with your mouth open), loud breathers (I know we got to breathe) 🙈, polystyrene cos I hate the way it feels and breaks (kind of a phobia I guess)

10. Last book I read? Not that type of girl by Lena Durham. It was well interesting. Still not completely finished it but that’s me and books all over.

Me swooning over that man 😍

Thanks for stopping by, til next time xx

October Favourites

October is coming to a close and November is waiting in the wings

I am quite sad October can’t go on for longer it’s my favourite month of the year

Anyways let’s get back to why we are here.

These things brought me joy this month.

PUMA TRAINERS

Mum asked me if there was anything specific that I wanted for my birthday… Well I had seen these on ASOS and said these would be perfect (for when we in England get dry days) so this was what she got me. Normally I don’t get any named trainers but they were pink and they did half sizes so I was happy I could get them.

WATERMELON LOLLY

I think I may have mentioned these before. They are by Rowntree – the people who make fruit pastilles they make these ice lollies too.

They are so bloody yum and I think about 60 calories so don’t worry if you are on a healthy diet these would be a great pick for a treat.

SELF CARE BOOK

I got some books a couple of weeks ago as I need to get my nerd on. I’m a writer, but when it comes to books I need to try concentrate on getting it finished. This one is a self help book and at the mo it’s got 5 stars from me. It’s small enough to fit into a inside coat pocket or a handbag.

BOURJOIS LIP DUO SCULPT

Last month I went in search for a lipstick that was autumn appropriate in its shade and long lasting. The shade is like the colour of my nails. I believe in this range there’s another 2 or 3. Superdrug or boots normally have make up offers so go spoil yourself.

ROCKETMAN ON DVD

This was another thing I had for my birthday, this was from my Sister.

If you haven’t heard of it it’s a story of Elton John’s life. It was quite sad to see what he went through to get to where he is now . It did have Happy moments in it and alot of his music. So if you like films that are like musicals, you’ll love this one.

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

Not much of an explanation needed just some people are worth the second chance and some are not worth your energy.

I hope you have had a lovely October…

Feel free to leave below something that made your month

Til next time

A simple but Stylish DIY

You know when you have all your pretty notebooks you don’t want to use because you just want up admire them and keep them fresh…

So you get yourself a boring notebook and it just doesn’t scream use me so just gets pushed to one side.


I thought why not use that lonely book and make it look simple but pretty at the same time so here is what I decided to go with.


A piece of pink card, some double sided adhesive tape, some sticker paper, a quote and there you have it. A couple of hearts drawn on for good measure.

You don’t have to be good at crafts, just use your imagination a bit.

Go as crazy as you like…
If you decide to do it and share it on Instagram tag me @holzieloves or use #HLDIY

Happy Thursday 😘