Be the real you and stay true

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So you are sat there in the tub, not feeling to great about yourself, about your self worth or self esteem. It has been knocked down by someone on social media.

Whilst nosing through your feed you notice that certain people are getting more likes on their pictures and you may think well i put in just as much effort in mine and i don’t seem to get half as much engagement. Feels like a kick in the teeth for all your hard work.

Please don’t sit there in a bad mood. It really isn’t the end of the world, give yourself 5 minutes of angry time and take these tips from me and use them each time you feel yourself not feeling worth it.

If you take my advice you wont ever get a down day again when it comes to scrolling through social media.

Much loves and always keep your chin up.

Til next time

5 things to quit right now

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These 5 things are going to make you happier if you stop doing them.

TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE

If you are trying to be a people pleaser all the time you really will start leading a sad life. It won’t do you any favours, you should be thinking of yourself and putting a smile on your face first.

FEARING CHANGE

When you are stuck in your ways and don’t venture out of your comfort zone you wont ever progress in life. You need to take a chance every once in a while, it won’t hurt you.

LIVING IN THE PAST

When you have things in the past control how you are living in the present, it stops you from enjoying what you should be. Leave the past where it belongs…behind you.

PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN

You should never ever put yourself down. You are enough, and you are a bloody wonderful human being. Remember this and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

OVER THINKING

Once your mind goes into overdrive it’s hard to get back to your normal way of thinking without eliminating what’s got you there. The thing to do is don’t let yourself get there in the first place.

I hope this will help you if you do some of these

Til next time

Don’t ever suffer in silence like i did

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Throughout my life, if I am being honest I have suffered quite a bit other than my health over the 33 years of my life.

Here are a few I’ll mention:

  • Bullied severely at school – police were involved come the end
  • Taken advantage of whilst drunk -shame on them
  • Sexually abused – Don’t worry I’m fine, there will always be wrong’uns
  • Had depressive moments – needed medication and outpatient therapy

I will forever remember these times it’s not easy to just forget those times in my life but it won’t ever define who I am or let it ruin my life. It happened and I can’t change what happened in the past.

I can however help those people who are struggling themselves. It’s the caring side of me. I wished I had more people about in my times of need. I had a few but not that one person who I could tell everything to.

HAVE A LISTEN TO ME

Please remember that there are people out there who can help you whether they are just an ear to listen, someone in a profession that can help you in the right direction or a friend/family member.

Believe it or not, they’ve probably encountered one of your problems and can aid you back to smiley happier you.

If you ever need someone to chat to online feel free to inbox me on the below social media pages

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Just breathe…Don’t panic

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Over the last few days i have needed to try something a little different to unwind.

My health has been rather pants of late. My body paralysis has been a bit all over the place and my bladder is being evicted in a few months…you know back in the health update saying we were trying to dodge a big op…well it’s got rather desperate and am in need of a urostomy – a pee bag. So anxiety has been a bit erratic as you can imagine.

So i have changed the way i try to relax. Using a few apps on my phone

INSIGHT TIMER

It gives you guided meditation for all sorts of different aspects of life and i really like the timer part of it. You set the time and the sound you find soothing and away you go.

DAYLIO

If you want to keep a track of your moods and activities to look back on then the daylio app is great. As you can see you can edit your moods as i have and also the activities are editable too – still need to do mine. You can also add a little bit about your day too, like a diary. I like it so far.

Don’t be afraid to change bits of your routine to help you along the way.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Don’t let social media ruin your life

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I know as I am writing this it is on some form of social media. But this is our little blogging community and on a whole people are lovely and super inspiring.

Ok let’s get down to it…

INSTAGRAM

You have two typicals that you probably compare yourself to

1) whatever they post they get loads of likes even if you think yours is just as good, it’s the person they are liking most of the time not the pics. Sometimes they do have fabulous feeds. But really it’s nice to get to know the real person behind their Instagram. People are not just photos they are more wonderful than that.

2) No matter how hard you have tried it just doesn’t seem to come close to the followers or likes of the said group of instagrammers above. You get frustrated when you don’t get the appreciation too. Please don’t worry, it doesn’t make you any less of a person. Its only an app after all.

FACEBOOK

Don’t get me wrong, facebook is a wonderful thing to keep in contact with friends and relatives. But it’s when it becomes something quite destructive that you need to question whether it’s good for you or not.

The egos of some people they post something provoking and then the more fuel is added to that fire the bigger their egotistical minds get. Sad people really.

Then on the other hand there’s the ones who don’t give themselves down time from facebook, they comment on everything, like everything and post quite erraticly, that’s facebook addiction.

TWITTER

I always look at Twitter as the Fomo app (fear of missing out). You can be on there for absolute hours and not have gained anything but hours of just scrolling through tweet after tweet.

Using it for the greater good is always the way forward. It’s one of my favourite social media platforms to use. Surround yourself with happy people on Twitter and you won’t be just scrolling you’ll be Sending out positive energy and making great friends.

It’s always a question i hear a lot and here’s the answer.

Those that don’t love you for who you are are not your people. Delete and move on.

Hope you’ll look at social media differently after this.

Til next time

Listen up

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I have been wanting to do this for a while and going back a few years i did give it a go but didn’t have the confidence i do now and deleted them.

I have just published my first podcast and i absolutely love it. Since i was able to talk it’s been my favourite pastime. Talking that is not podcasting 🙈

So here it is. It would mean the world if you would take a listen.

IF YOU HAVE APPLE CLICK HERE FOR PODCAST

Alternatively you can click down below

I will be uploading every Wednesday. So i will of course notify you on here when a new episode goes up.

Feedback is always welcomed.

Til next time my beauts

Health Update

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I thought it was a while since i gave you an in depth chat about my health in general.

If it’s the first time you are reading my blog i haven’t enjoyed good health for about 6 years, but i rarely let it get me down.

ANXIETY

Of late i have been having some quite bad panic attacks right out the blue, at anytime of the day or night. I have been using distraction techniques like using a squidgy stress toy or the breathing app on my phone to get me back to normal. To be honest, just some fresh air sometimes helps me feel better. Anxietys the one illness that prevents me from being an independent woman and i hate it

FUNCTIONAL NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER

This has only been since last july. It literally happened in a blink of an eye. My legs just paralysed and now they go in and out of paralysis it sometimes affects my arms/hands. Mainly my legs though. I’ve had 2 episodes of loss of speech and a non epileptic seizure. To put FND in layman’s terms the signals sometimes don’t get to a certain part of my body causing them not to function. This has left me needing a wheelchair 3/4 of the time. I won’t let it defeat me.

BLADDER

I have a bladder stoma which is now 3 years old. My bladder went into severe retention and i couldn’t wee. I knew having my stoma would cause problems and I’m in and out the hospital with it but I’m so thankful it saved my life. We are keeping our fingers crossed that i don’t need my bladder enlarged as it will be one hell of an operation.

M.E

Alot of people don’t get what M.E is and just think its chronic fatigue. My voice goes for days at a time if i over exert on something that someone else may not find that strenuous and could land me in bed for up to a week. I find when its bad i can’t string a sentence together without getting mixed up. In this heat my muscles have ached which is new for me but all i can do is rest and wish for a cure one day.

There you have it, my health and me.

Sometimes you are dealt a crap hand and its your choice weather to fight it or give up.

Everything is worth fighting for

Chase your dreams

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you are sat there and a Eureka moment happens, or you wake up and have the most wonderful idea running through your mind at a thousand miles an hour.

Quick, grab a pen and paper and get it down on there before it vanishes into thin air.

Put down as much detail as you can about your dream and plan on making it a reality. You know dreams don’t come true if you don’t put in a little effort. If only it was that easy

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I am working towards one of my dreams right now. I am writing my second book. I already wrote one about my bullying at school/ a few years after. This time it’s going to be a poetry book as I absolutely love words with meaning. It’s going to be relatable to almost everyone hopefully. I am in the planning process so will keep you updated as I work towards achieving my dream.

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Don’t let them pass you by. Your dream was given to you for a reason.

Of course, if they were bad dreams please don’t chase those, let them bugger off into nothingness. Only the good ones deserve your time.

In Gabrielle’s words….dreams can come true

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time…

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Dear Reader

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From me to you,

I want you to know that in life you are going to stumble, and sometimes actually fall. The thing you have to do is not wallow in it, you need to get back up and get on with it. The only person that can achieve your goal is you.

Take a step back if you need to an evaluate, but never give up. There is so little time in a day really when you think about it, and to of wasted your time throwing away a goal you were working so hard towards is kinda silly, right?

If everyone threw in the towel when things slipped up/didn’t go their way we would be living in a really miserable place. Break it down into small manageable goals, and before you know it you will have a big ‘I DID IT’ tick beside it.

You’d feel so proud of yourself for not giving up at the first fallen hurdle.

Of course life is going to throw you crap, you just got to be ready to say… Not my crap and get your head in the game so to speak.

Three final words of this post I am going to leave you with and I want you to always have them in the back of your mind when you have your sights set on something.

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Thanks for stopping by

Til next time…

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Reasons for a week off

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I am sorry there haven’t been any posts in the last week.

I know I don’t need to apologise. I know I have some readers that religiously follow me and a few have asked if I was ok so I thought I would tell you why I didn’t write.

As most of you know I have a few illnesses – One being M.E, which causes extreme tiredness amongst other symptoms. I had a few bad days at the beginning of the week so I spent most of those days in bed recuperating and sleeping my senses away. Not fun in the slightest.

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Luckily by the Friday I was feeling a lot more energised and well enough to go to my best friends birthday meal in the evening. This was special because it was a reunion with all my close school friends who I hadn’t been out with since I left school 15 years ago. It was really nice to get out the house with friends and not my mum.  They were all taking it in turns to push me in the wheelchair which was a laugh as I was scared I would end up falling off the curb. I had a few alcoholic beverages for the occasion too. Archers and lemonade of course.

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Saturday was a I got a hangover head kind of day so I didn’t do very much at all apart from telly hopping and eating junk food. I did do a face mask in the evening, always like to do one once a week to look after my 30 something skin.

Sunday was an Auntie and Niece afternoon. I got to spend it with just me and Daisy. I really love that I can have a conversation with her now and she knows what I am on about. She loves her Auntie Hol and its so nice to feel loved.

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Yesterday (Monday) was a long ass day I had to go to hospital to see the people I saw when I had to stay in hospital to see if they could improve the paralysis in my legs. It was a 5-hour round trip for a 30-minute appointment. I didn’t the best news, there’s no cure just need to manage it when it happens, which is very frequent.. I am still smiling, there’s no need to be miserable. It is what it is.

So you can see its been quite a hectic up and down week but I am back now and will try and get a few more posts up this week.

Thanks for stopping by

til next time

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