So you are sat there in the tub, not feeling to great about yourself, about your self worth or self esteem. It has been knocked down by someone on social media.
Whilst nosing through your feed you notice that certain people are getting more likes on their pictures and you may think well i put in just as much effort in mine and i don’t seem to get half as much engagement. Feels like a kick in the teeth for all your hard work.
Please don’t sit there in a bad mood. It really isn’t the end of the world, give yourself 5 minutes of angry time and take these tips from me and use them each time you feel yourself not feeling worth it.
If you take my advice you wont ever get a down day again when it comes to scrolling through social media.
I heard on the radio today is world naked gardening day but since I don’t do gardening I thought I’d chat about just being naked.
SLEEPING IN THE BUFF
For me personally until it’s baking hot in the summer I’m fully wrapped up in bed. If you have a significant other then their body heat keeps you warm so that’s another story. Then you have making love, whether you keep on a top or bare all.
WALKING ABOUT THE HOUSE NAKEE
Admittedly if the curtains and blinds are shut it’s the most freeing feeling and keeping in mind who’s about in your house and if they are comfortable with you in nothing but your birthday suit.
POSING FOR THE CAMERA IN THE NUDDY
If you are into modeling or if you want to have some photos just for you/your partner with your bare skin on show I don’t see what’s wrong as long as you keep them private as they could end up with the wrong eyes seeing them.
BEING STARKERS IN PUBLIC / NATURIST
Well obviously you just can’t walk down the road starkers as you would get arrested, but there’s naturist places where people can feel free in their bareness and then there are also nudist beaches to sun yourself with no white bits at all. It’s something I’m curious about but don’t think I’d ever have the balls in front of strangers.
So there you are a totally different subject to what I usually write about but you know me, don’t mind stepping out of my comfort zone.
I want to accomplish a goal this year, something that won’t just make me happy but will help others too.
So if you didn’t know i wrote a book a few years ago,my real life story called BULLIED FOR BEING ME (click to get a copy its £1.62 at the mo for the paper back). It gets the word out of how mean bullies can be and how back then i coped. It was pretty tough to write it as i had to relive it in my head but it is so rewarding when you have something in paperback to be proud of.
If i was to write another book i am tore between doing a self help book or poetry book as both would make me ecstatically happy to do.
I also would love to be an agony aunt, i would love to have a page online or on the blog to dedicate to helping with problems of any topic, nothing is ever too embarrassing for me to delve into but i have no idea how to go about that one. If you do please click on my twitter or Instagram below and inbox me your ideas.
I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.
We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.
Do you know what?
We are human and having a down day is very normal.
But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.
I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.
Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.
In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.
I say I am not scared but deep down I’m bricking it.
So on Friday I had to go to hospital to get ‘marked up ‘ which means they get a permanent marker and draw on where they think my stoma will go to and how high I wear my trousers so this is what my tummy looks like at the mo.
On Saturday I had to have my last substantial meal but also 3 of these build up drinks called fortisips. Luckily I like the 2 flavours they gave me – Apricot and vanilla. I must say it was hard drinking them as they are like a milkshake but fill you up a lot more.
I tried to distract myself from thinking too much about it and watched a bit of eye candy on the TV – Micky Flanagan. I know he’s not your typical hunk but there’s just something about him 😍
Today’s Sunday and I’ve got to seriously get sorted because tomorrow is the day.
I have to make sure all is packed in my bag the essentials and mum said she can bring things up at a later date when I’m feeling a bit more human. I have to stop eating properly at 2pm and can have jelly and ice cream til midnight if I am hungry. The dreaded drinks I have another 6 to drink today and then 2 Monday in the morning before surgery.
I’m going to enjoy a nice soak in the shower as I dunno when I’ll be able to have my next one. I bought Bohemian Rhapsody on DVD so that’ll be tonight’s viewing before I attempt to get a bit of shut eye before my 5am wake up call.
I’ve got some scheduled blog posts for 2 weeks so I hope you’ll enjoy them.