Dating Disaster

Have you ever been on a date and the person you thought you been talking to was just your type.

Whether you met them on a drunken night out and have arranged a first date via text or you have been online dating.

Then you meet up with them and they are nothing like you remember and or look nothing like their picture.

You get there and they are sat there smiling and you walk in like….

When you match with someone online or their profile seems appealing, so messages are exchanged and you start to find out about this person who is very easy on the eye.

Thing is, when you eventually pluck up courage to meet them it really doesn’t match up they don’t look like their photos and they were telling you a load of bull just to get a date…

I myself have been in some situations just like these and you just wanna run back out the door.

Some of you do and don’t look back, most of us would just sit down and feel so awkward for the duration.

I tell you if it was me I’d order my food and when it came out I’d have to do this to him

Dating can be so hard, and not knowing what you are letting yourself get into is kind of scary.

So my advice is… If you are going to date online or you’re just exchanging texts only tell them minimal details, don’t open your heart too much as you know it’ll get hurt. If you do want to meet them… Please take a friend and make sure they are in sight so you can leave swiftly if you feel really uncomfortable.

Love is love

I truly believe that the heart chooses whoever it beats fast for, the one person who makes you have butterflies that feels so magical you don’t want it to go.

Some people have fallen in love many times and some just this once but let me tell you this

from the age of let’s say 15 looked at love like this: It doesn’t matter what gender you fall for, it’s the person, their personality, the way you get when you’re around them.

You just know and I don’t think anyone should ever feel like they can’t be in love with someone because they are the same sex, or a different race or religion.

Love feels the same no matter who it’s with

This t-shirt is from boohoo just incase you fancy getting yourself one.

Stay true and be you ❤️

Til next time

When friends turn toxic

Those friends who say they will be there for you in good times and bad, then when the going gets tough they are nowhere to be seen. If you don’t phone/text them they couldn’t give two hoots what your up to or how you’re doing.

There are also the friends that are nice to your face and bitch about you to others behind your back. You don’t need them, even if you have been friends for years. Friends don’t do that.

Here is a list of toxic people you need to eliminate from your life to make it better for you:

Those who spread negativity
Those who criticize you all the time
Those who waste your time
Those who are jealous
Those who play the victim
Those who don’t care
Those who are self-centred
Those that keep disappointing you

You need to look after yourself and if those people are more of a hindrance than help then you need to say bye-bye. Don’t think you are a horrible person because you’re anything but.

You can choose where you want those memories of them to go, to forget and bin them or to keep them stored away, the choice is yours.

I’ve always been taught to treat people as I want to be treated.

Being Bisexual is not a phase your going through

These colours are what represents the bisexual community. Its something i have always been up for chatting about and finding out more about.

From my recent posts you can see i am most definately into men and i have only ever been in relationships with men.

From about 14 years old i knew that i was also attracted to women. But if i had to say back then i was bisexual i didn’t know what it properly meant and you definitely would have been picked on. Shame on people who just didn’t get it. I was already having the worst time being bullied because of my spotty skin so i just kept it under cover.

Being bi you don’t have to of had sex with a woman, to of even kissed a woman. The attraction that you feel for a man, you get for a woman too.

LETS ALSO GET THIS STRAIGHT ( excuse the pun)

You don’t instantly fancy every woman and man you see. In fact i generally don’t even know the women i find attractive. You can be in a relationship with a man and still be bi you aren’t automatically straight and vice versa.

Sexual orientation shouldn’t have to be labelled these days and also when you say i think I’m bi, people say oh its just a phase…is being straight a phase too then?

Be who you want to be and love who you want to love too.

Glad to of got that off my chest.

Yes i bloody would, wouldn’t you?

I am quite partial to looking at a silver fox…I just love it when a man is greying I always think you are definitely going to look better with age. These are a handful of the ones that make me go mmm when I see them on TV. Well if I could jump through the screen who bloody knows haha.

Kevin Costner – I bloody love him in The Bodyguard. His eyes are really tantalising in it and I think he has aged lovely.

Martin Kemp: The day he went grey was the day I thought Mr Kemp, you are actually quite a good looking chap.

Alec Baldwin: Since watching My Sisters Keeper he has been one of my fav silver foxes and to top it off he’s funny too.

Paul Hollywood: He really is this delish in real life I met him for a meet and greet as a birthday pressie. A day I’ll never forget.

Phillip Schofield: My Weekday eye candy. Seen him in a Loincloth when he played Joseph. I was 3 rows back and 10 years old. I most definitely would have appreciated it now.

Richard Gere: Like a fine wine, Just gets better with age. Love him in all his films especially Pretty Woman.

There you go there’s an insight into my thoughts on the lovely silver foxes in this world.

Whos your favourite silver fox of all time?

Did you not feel anything?

You know last month
The guy i told you i was going to stop being in contact with because he wasn’t making me feel special…silly me thought if i just hang on a little longer he may change.

Yesterday evening i sent him a message that i deserve better but thanks for the laughs because theres no denying that we were always laughing. I didn’t get a reply or anything. So today i done the done thing and blocked him.

I am not a shallow person by any means but it’ll stop it all together. I deserve someone who sees my flaws and takes me just as i am, and puts in the effort that he just didn’t. It was a one sided kinda thing. I should have known that he was not the one as the months went by but 6 months and not even asking me to be his girl…i think i just liked the little attention he did pay me.

What’s that saying there’s plenty more fish in the sea. I guess having a disability i think who’s gonna want me in a wheelchair with all my other added problems…i think i have my answer, The right one.

Dad I’ll never give up on you

A year ago I wrote Don’t forget me and it was very hard to write as it’s about my dear Dad who suffers from Vascular Dementia which is when its progressive and really takes a hold of the sufferer.

I now write about him again as in that time period I had only seen him once and it’s been heartbreaking.

Since my dad left my Mum 12 years ago he has been controlled by the person he went off with. Before he got ill in 2011 he would have to sneak behind her back to come see his 4 children.

We never get told if Dad is in hospital and she never answers the phone when we attempt to ring. I know he hasn’t forgot me because on Saturday I managed to find out from the hospital I was a patient in that dad was in there. So for about 15 mins I could have a loving Father and Daughter chinwag.

It may be the last time I see him because I went against his partner but she needs to remember he’s my Dad and was in my life before he was in hers.

I’ll never give up on him. He brought me into this world and I intend on not letting someone dictate to me when I can see my number one man.

Please fight for the people you love, they are worth fighting for.

Holzieloves

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