words of wisdom

My Anxiety Tips

If you aren’t a regular reader here you won’t know my anxiety history. I’ll leave my story of how it started here incase you want to have a nosey.

Let’s just say I’ve had it for going on 2 decades and I’ve picked up some helpful coping strategies.

❤️ When you feel an anxiety attack coming on, try and get out into the fresh air and sit down if possible. I get hot and lightheaded in an attack so fresh air and somewhere to perch my bum is much needed.

❤️ The main thing is to concentrate on your breathing to try bring it back to normal. So breath in for 4, hold for 7 and let out for 8. I thought oh my goodness I can’t breath in for that long. But it really does work.

♥️ I have always found music to be the perfect distraction when I’m anxious. In particular I like soft music like acoustic or love songs. Songs that have great lyrics you can focus on. I also love listening to a crackling fire on the relaxing sounds app. Alternatively if you want loud music to try drown out the anxious thoughts that helps too in my opinion.

♥️ You’ve all heard of the grounding tip of things you can see etc using all your senses. Well I’ve come up with this one.

In your bag have something that has a scent that makes you happy like your fave perfume or cologne. I do love lavender too so some essential oils are really handy too.

Have your happy photos on your phone in a folder easily accessible so you can look at them to bring your emotions back to not being stressed out.

Your phone will come for the next two senses which is listen – so it could be the music I mentioned, or some affirmations that you can pre record to remind yourself that everything is going to be ok.

Your mouth without a doubt will be dry in an anxiety attack so popping your favourite sweet in will definitely calm you down, tried and tested by me.

Last sense is touch. There are so many stress relievers out there on ebay/ wish / amazon. Having that at hand in your bag will come in so handy if that’s all you can manage to get during your attack.

♥️ Reach out and ask for help or just message/call someone you trust and say help me take my mind off things, distract me, make me laugh. Pretty sure you have one person you can turn to.

I really could go on and on and on but I think I’ll leave it there.

I’m always here for any of you if you feel the need to chat.

Hope this has been of some help.

Til next time

The Plan

I want to accomplish a goal this year, something that won’t just make me happy but will help others too.

So if you didn’t know i wrote a book a few years ago,my real life story called BULLIED FOR BEING ME (click to get a copy its £1.62 at the mo for the paper back). It gets the word out of how mean bullies can be and how back then i coped. It was pretty tough to write it as i had to relive it in my head but it is so rewarding when you have something in paperback to be proud of.

If i was to write another book i am tore between doing a self help book or poetry book as both would make me ecstatically happy to do.

I also would love to be an agony aunt, i would love to have a page online or on the blog to dedicate to helping with problems of any topic, nothing is ever too embarrassing for me to delve into but i have no idea how to go about that one. If you do please click on my twitter or Instagram below and inbox me your ideas.

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I have so much to give to others because that’s just the type of person i am. So lets hope i can achieve my goal.

Reinventing Yourself

When I say reinvent yourself I don’t mean make yourself into someone else / someone who will be totally unrecognisable to your friends & family.

I mean changing a few things in life to make it better for you and make you happier in the process.

❤️ Give your style a overhaul if you feel like your in a slump. I know that I need to do that as my wardrobe is a mish mash of all sorts.

❤️ If your hair colour has been the same or the length of your hair is getting you down give it a bit of life and treat yourself. It’s amazing how a hair app can alter you completely. I’m growing my hair but once I’m healed from surgery I’m definitely going to treat myself to a colour.

❤️ Re-evaluate the people you have in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself they need to go. Fill your life with inspiring people who make you feel happy everytime you see them. I have only the people who appreciate me and bring a smile to my face daily.

❤️ Changing the hobbies you have, if you had any at all to ones you’ll enjoy going to and not find them a chore. Whether it’s arts and crafts or something sporty you’ll find enjoyment in something and that’ll become your passion in life. I love writing poetry and when I’m feeling brave I sketch even though I’m not that good I find sketching therapeutic.

See just having a few changes in life can alter how you spend your days.

I hope you’ve found it helpful.

Til next time

Deep meaningful quotes that give you all the feels

OK. So here are some meaningful quotes that I know you will be able to relate on some level.

Looking at someone past their looks and seeing what they are really all about.

Know that number 1 is you and don’t put someone else’s importance before your own.

You want to conquer something but you need the courage to do it. Spread them wings, get flying.

Finding the right people in life that will make you smile, lift you up and watch you improve in life.

You need to leave the past behind to be able to move forward. I know you’ve heard this one before probably from many people. It’s because it’s so true.

It’s not plain sailing for anyone. You need to know that everybody has bumps in their path of life. Struggles are everywhere, it’s how you handle them.

And that’s your life lesson for today 😂

Til next time

Q and A Time

I absolutely love reading other people’s Q and A’s so I thought I’d do my own. Here are some questions I was asked…

Why did you start blogging?

Ever since I was a little girl I’ve been so in love with writing. So when I found out about blogging and others reading what you write I just had to join in this fab community. Never looked back.

What do you do to unwind?

I think putting on your pjs after a nice soak in the bath, curling up in a blanket with a hot water bottle and some eye candy on Tele is just my idea of unwinding.

What’s one thing you wish you could have told your younger self?

That no matter what life throws at you, don’t let it get you down. Be brave and plod on the best way you can.

How long have you and your best friend been best friends?

Oh my, we have been friends our whole life. Well I’m 8 months older than Jessica but our mums have been great friends even before we were both born. Our nicknames came 15 years later, hers is Trev and Mine is Bertie 🙈

What’s one item of clothing that you will never wear again even if it’s come back in fashion?

Oh that is easy – A shell suit. I mean I adored my pink one at the time but to give my honest opinion… it was a hideous item of clothing and let’s hope they don’t come round a second time. Sorry mum lol.

Do you regret anything?

Yes I regret losing my virginity when I did with who I did. If only I could turn back the clock I’d definitely not have made that mistake. Generally I try and live with no regrets.

Man crush / Woman crush?

Oooo Colin Firth and Cameron Diaz. This hasnt changed for years.

One beauty product you can’t live without?

I’d say foundation simply because you can just put a bit of it on to give you a bit of a colour if you’re looking tired or a bit pale or need to conceal some spots.

Physically, what do you look for in a potential boyf?

I’ve always looked at eyes first they tell so much and a nice jaw line (yeah I know I’m a bit weird)

Your moto in life?

Live Laugh Love

Its something i think we all should do every day. Live life to its fullest, laugh, its the best medicine. Lastly love with all your heart.

I hope you enjoyed finding out a bit more about me.

Til next time my beauts xx

5 things to quit right now

These 5 things are going to make you happier if you stop doing them.

TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE

If you are trying to be a people pleaser all the time you really will start leading a sad life. It won’t do you any favours, you should be thinking of yourself and putting a smile on your face first.

FEARING CHANGE

When you are stuck in your ways and don’t venture out of your comfort zone you wont ever progress in life. You need to take a chance every once in a while, it won’t hurt you.

LIVING IN THE PAST

When you have things in the past control how you are living in the present, it stops you from enjoying what you should be. Leave the past where it belongs…behind you.

PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN

You should never ever put yourself down. You are enough, and you are a bloody wonderful human being. Remember this and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

OVER THINKING

Once your mind goes into overdrive it’s hard to get back to your normal way of thinking without eliminating what’s got you there. The thing to do is don’t let yourself get there in the first place.

I hope this will help you if you do some of these

Til next time

The Diary of a Pinkaholic

Hey my lovely ones,

I wanted to have somewhere where I could just randomly blog daily about whatever came to mind that I also wanted to share with whoever wanted a read. I felt that here on Holzieloves wasn’t the right place and decided to make a second blog.

Holzieloves is going to be 3 this year and I have built it up to help inspire, share my tips, my life experiences, and to entertain and I intend to keep it that way.

So my second blog is called THE DIARY OF A PINKAHOLIC and it is what it says. I have always kept a diary of some sort and i adore pink. Don’t worry the blog doesn’t talk about pink all the time. It’s whatever is going on that day and a little bit of my humour too.

if you’d like to check it out then click here

I will still be uploading 2/3 posts a week here on Holzieloves so keep your eyes open for the next one.