My Surgery

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Most of my posts have been written in advance as I didn’t know how I was going to be feeling after my surgery. I usually write and publish my blog posts the same day but I had to think ahead.

So I thought I’d just write a short question and answer about my surgery and how I’m feeling

  1. What surgery did I have: I had my bladder removed it took 9 hours as they wanted to save my bowel and uterus as they were stuck together with adhesions.
  2. Did you have to have anything done to prep you for it: I had to drink these vile drinks for 2 days then alter my eating to softish food. It was a bit of a struggle but I did it.
  3. How long is recovery expected to be: some people are still recovering years later but I’ve been told I can’t lift anything heavier than a kettle for 6 months or more. My niece will just have to come cuddle up on the other side as she’s getting a lump at nearly 3 so I’m not up for doing myself damage.
  4. Are the staff nice: Overall they are all really nice and helpful and reassure me when I’m a bit scared
  5. What’s the hospital food like:to be honest because my appetite has gone a bit I’ve not ate very much at all. The food I have had is edible just not a variety that I see on the menu they bring round.
  6. What are you doing to pass the time: for the first couple of days / nearly a week I felt pretty rotten and been dosed up with painkillers. When I have been ok I’ve watched the TV they have in my room then the occasional Netflix film or YouTube video.
  7. Do you have to adapt to anything differently: yes plenty. I now have a bag stuck to my body that needs to be very well looked after and of course the stoma itself. It’ll all come with practise.
  8. A positive message for others facing surgery: keep a positive head, a strong mind will get you through anything.

Deep meaningful quotes that give you all the feels

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OK. So here are some meaningful quotes that I know you will be able to relate on some level.

Looking at someone past their looks and seeing what they are really all about.

Know that number 1 is you and don’t put someone else’s importance before your own.

You want to conquer something but you need the courage to do it. Spread them wings, get flying.

Finding the right people in life that will make you smile, lift you up and watch you improve in life.

You need to leave the past behind to be able to move forward. I know you’ve heard this one before probably from many people. It’s because it’s so true.

It’s not plain sailing for anyone. You need to know that everybody has bumps in their path of life. Struggles are everywhere, it’s how you handle them.

And that’s your life lesson for today 😂

Til next time

Ways to stay organised

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I never used to be organised, I would just shove stuff in a drawer or at the bottom of the wardrobe until I couldn’t fit anything else in then it was a case of having to sort it out. But as I have matured a bit over the years I think that nothing is worse than living in chaos.

So I have come up with some things that I like to keep on top of to make me feel like I have my shit together.

❤️Organise closet/cupboard/wardrobe wherever you put your clothes. I find putting them in sections of colour is gonna so when you are feeling red for example you can go to your red items and take your pick. Alternatively you can have one end for best and the other end for casual

❤️Making time for a Morning/evening routine. You don’t need a long list of things just some essentials that will make your day/night easier

❤️Sort apps on phone into folders -it’ll keep it looking tidy and you’ll know where all the necessary ones are

❤️Use a notepad or planner to make the most out of your day, with to do lists, meal plans, places to go and people to see.

❤️Delete unwanted photos/messages/numbers on your phone to free up space.

❤️If you can clean as you go, if not allocate some time in your day to do it instead of letting it all mount up. Delegate your load with others in the house if you don’t live alone.

❤️Keep tabs on your spending so you can see what you are getting that you need and can be justified as a reasonable buy and those that aren’t need to be cut back so you’ll have some savings for a rainy day.

❤️Keep your bedroom as spotless as you can as this is for relaxing and unwinding.

❤️Declutter anything that serves you no purpose anymore ( I’ll do another post on this soon. )

❤️Pack bag, food and outfit for the next day the night before do you won’t be faffing about in the morning.

I hope you can use these in your daily life to make it less stressful

Feel free to share your tips below

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Loving you is easy cos your beautiful

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I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.

We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.

Do you know what?

We are human and having a down day is very normal.

But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.

  • I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
  • Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
  • Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
  • Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
  • When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.

Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.

In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Prepping for my operation

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I say I am not scared but deep down I’m bricking it.

So on Friday I had to go to hospital to get ‘marked up ‘ which means they get a permanent marker and draw on where they think my stoma will go to and how high I wear my trousers so this is what my tummy looks like at the mo.

On Saturday I had to have my last substantial meal but also 3 of these build up drinks called fortisips. Luckily I like the 2 flavours they gave me – Apricot and vanilla. I must say it was hard drinking them as they are like a milkshake but fill you up a lot more.

I tried to distract myself from thinking too much about it and watched a bit of eye candy on the TV – Micky Flanagan. I know he’s not your typical hunk but there’s just something about him 😍

Today’s Sunday and I’ve got to seriously get sorted because tomorrow is the day.

I have to make sure all is packed in my bag the essentials and mum said she can bring things up at a later date when I’m feeling a bit more human. I have to stop eating properly at 2pm and can have jelly and ice cream til midnight if I am hungry. The dreaded drinks I have another 6 to drink today and then 2 Monday in the morning before surgery.

I’m going to enjoy a nice soak in the shower as I dunno when I’ll be able to have my next one. I bought Bohemian Rhapsody on DVD so that’ll be tonight’s viewing before I attempt to get a bit of shut eye before my 5am wake up call.

I’ve got some scheduled blog posts for 2 weeks so I hope you’ll enjoy them.

Inspirational DIY

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If only our house wasn’t carpeted… Or maybe in my dream house I could do one of these DIYs on the stairs.

I love quotes and positivity and seeing these on Pinterest I thought I’d share incase any of you thought of doing something similar.

Some people may think this looks a bit naff but I think it’s really quirky.

Anyway my beauts Here’s to the weekend.

Take time for you

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Apologies for the absence of my blog posts, my heads been elsewhere.

I am having my big op to remove my bladder this Monday coming so I have been trying to get all bits sorted as after I’m going to be rather sore and need to take time to recover.

So today I gave myself a to do list but not one that’s going to be too much – more of a self care one so here it is

2 HOUR PHONE DETOX

I have an app called offline that you can get on the play store if you are on Android, I am pretty sure there is an alternative one for iPhone.

It stops you from using your phone for however long you set it for and only allows a few calls you’ve selected to be accepted – and I allowed Spotify so I could still listen to music. This allowed me to step back from scrolling through my phone for a few hours and do something more practical. You really should give it a go.

MEDITATION

Not all meditation requires you to sit cross legged and going ‘omm’ but if it works for you do it. I sat up in a chair – a comfortable one, and played some crackling fire music. This soothes me for some reason and I just tried to focus on happy things, letting no negativity creep in. I done that for 20 mins and my mind definitely felt clearer after. Whatever sound or location you feel you can zone out in go with it, you might surprise yourself.

FACE MASK AND EXFOLIATION

I adore a face mask.Even if you don’t want to do a full on pampering it makes you feel like you’ve had a little bit of one. The 7th heaven ones are my favourite as they are inexpensive and come in loads of different varieties from peel off to mud. I used my body scrub from The Body Shop to make my skin silky smooth. It makes your body feel loved and not neglected just cos it’s under clothes at the moment.

SORT WARDROBE OUT

I literally had a quick nosey to see if there was anything that wasn’t going to be use to me after my operation, as having a stoma bag I’m not going to be able to wear tight things for some time. I decided that I would wait til it’s nearing the summer months and just buy myself some bits then and donate the winter bits I no longer need. Instead I sorted out my handbags and found £19.25 in change. Better than a smack in the mouth mother would say…I love her sayings.

RELAX WITH A BOOK AND MUSIC

I am saving this one until bedtime. I want an earlyish night so instead of watching the TV or YouTube I’m going to have a look on the kindle store and see what book I can get stuck into. The radio station I like to listen to at night is called THE BREEZE. If you like love songs and all the soppy songs then this ones for you, bit like Magic if you’ve heard of that station.

Taking time for yourself can be as hectic or as peaceful as you choose it to be. It doesn’t hurt every once in a while to do it.

Thanks for stopping by

Until next time

Cover me up

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Don’t you hate it when you wake up and you have dark circles through lack of sleep or that unwanted spot that just lands on your face. I know there are worst things in life, but it’ll make you feel so much more confident if you can conceal them.

So I’ve come up with 4 concealers that are very much raved about and I also have some tips to help

COLLECTION LASTING PERFECTION CONCEALER

At £4.19 this is the cheapest one I’m going to mention. You can find it at Boots and Superdrug It really does help conceal the dark circles and definitely helped cover redness but not my spots. Not to say it won’t help yours. It comes in a range of shades too.

REVOLUTION CONCEAL AND DEFINE CONCEALER

This one is a dupe for another one I’m going to mention that’s a bit pricey, this one is a fraction of the price at £5 from either Superdrug or Beauty Bay. It gives a full coverage which I like. You can get these in two different sizes as well if you tend to use a lot of concealer.

L’ORÉAL INFAILLABLE MORE THAN CONCEALER

This one is new out and I’ve been using it for about a month and I don’t have any intention of switching back. It has concealed my dark circles, my troublesome spots and any redness I get. It is £9.99 but I’d rather spend a tiny bit more to get a good result and fingers crossed it’ll last a few months.

TARTE SHAPE TAPE

At a steep £23. 00 the Tarte Shape Tape concealer does all the revolution concealer does but with a brand which all products come with a hefty price tag. I believe you can only get Tarte from America so people are selling them for £31.00 on Ebay. You’re silly if you wanna spend that and you don’t even know if it’s a knock off.

Those colour correction sets that come with all those different colours in them have uses for different skin complaints so I’ve found this down below that explains which colour helps what.

Also here is the places to apply your concealer to get the best results.

I also put a stripe down my nose only because I find if I don’t my foundation rubs off.

I hope you found this post informative and let me know if you have tried any others I haven’t named and you think they are worth a try.

Q and A Time

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I absolutely love reading other people’s Q and A’s so I thought I’d do my own. Here are some questions I was asked…

Why did you start blogging?

Ever since I was a little girl I’ve been so in love with writing. So when I found out about blogging and others reading what you write I just had to join in this fab community. Never looked back.

What do you do to unwind?

I think putting on your pjs after a nice soak in the bath, curling up in a blanket with a hot water bottle and some eye candy on Tele is just my idea of unwinding.

What’s one thing you wish you could have told your younger self?

That no matter what life throws at you, don’t let it get you down. Be brave and plod on the best way you can.

How long have you and your best friend been best friends?

Oh my, we have been friends our whole life. Well I’m 8 months older than Jessica but our mums have been great friends even before we were both born. Our nicknames came 15 years later, hers is Trev and Mine is Bertie 🙈

What’s one item of clothing that you will never wear again even if it’s come back in fashion?

Oh that is easy – A shell suit. I mean I adored my pink one at the time but to give my honest opinion… it was a hideous item of clothing and let’s hope they don’t come round a second time. Sorry mum lol.

Do you regret anything?

Yes I regret losing my virginity when I did with who I did. If only I could turn back the clock I’d definitely not have made that mistake. Generally I try and live with no regrets.

Man crush / Woman crush?

Oooo Colin Firth and Cameron Diaz. This hasnt changed for years.

One beauty product you can’t live without?

I’d say foundation simply because you can just put a bit of it on to give you a bit of a colour if you’re looking tired or a bit pale or need to conceal some spots.

Physically, what do you look for in a potential boyf?

I’ve always looked at eyes first they tell so much and a nice jaw line (yeah I know I’m a bit weird)

Your moto in life?

Live Laugh Love

Its something i think we all should do every day. Live life to its fullest, laugh, its the best medicine. Lastly love with all your heart.

I hope you enjoyed finding out a bit more about me.

Til next time my beauts xx

A social update

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Just incase you are a new follower – here is where you can find me other than here and I try to make each one not the same otherwise that would be boring, right?


So Facebook I am relatively new with my page on there so any newbies would be great

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I love a bit of tweeting and I’ve made some amazing friends through blogging and sharing ideas with them and just general chit chat. If you want to know anything twitter will have the answer (of course you have Google but you got interactive discussions on twitter)

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MY TWITTER ACCOUNT

Then of course there’s Instagram. Whether it’s a quote you want to share or a photo you’ve captured and you’re proud of then insta is the best place to share it.

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Feel free to share yours in the comments too.