Where to find other bloggers

When you first start blogging it can almost feel alien to you. As you feel quite lonely, because maybe your friends don’t get the whole blogging thing. Let me tell you there’s plenty that do.

Don’t know where to look for them?

Here’s where I found some of mine and how you can find yours and be friends for life.

❤️ Pinterest
❤️ Instagram
❤️ Twitter chats
❤️ Using hashtags on social media
❤️ Groups on Facebook
❤️ Follow other blogs
❤️ Comment on other blogs

You need to try spark up a conversation, be brave and be the one to break the ice.

If someone is asking for help with their blog and you know the answer. Reach out and offer an olive branch.

When you have built up a little bit of a bond feature them on your blog or social media to show you really value their friendship. Also do a shout out or follow Friday and tell everyone why they should follow such an awesome individual.

If they take the time to read your blog and comment then you should in return do the same. Get into the habit of reading blogs every night.
If you live near a certain blogger suggest meeting up at an event near you. If you live in bigger cities you’ll more than likely get event invites.

Ask to join a Pinterest group which helps promote your post and make sure you participate.

Share on your Instagram stories some of your bloggers feed photos or quotes that you like. I’ll help others find them too.
Make yourself available to your blogger friends if they should ever need you and you’ll be a friend they’ll never want to lose.

Things you can control

In life there are some things you can’t control but there are plenty of things you can.

Here are a few below to digest

 

Your beliefs

Your attitude

Your thoughts

Your perspective

How honest you are

Who your friends are

What books you read

How often you exercise

What food you eat

What risks you take

How kind you are

How often you say I love you

How often you say thank you

How you express your feelings

Whether or not you ask for help

How many times a day you smile

The amount of effort you put into things

How much money you spend

How much time you spend worrying

How often you think about the past

Whether you judge someone or not

Whether to try again

How to appreciate the things you do have

I hope this gives you some food for thought

Til next time

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Standing up to a bully

After 17 years – that’s how long since I left school you would think that bullying may have been a thing of the past. To be honest I think it’s got 10 times worse.

I was sadly a victim of bullying from alot of my year at school all because my skin wasn’t clear. I was verbally abused and then come the end of school physically.

It won’t ever leave me, but I always think I never want anyone else to have the sadness and pain I did. I know in reality that there will be thousands in the world who will feel the same pain.

Here is how you can spot a cactus friend – those that pretend to be your friend then stab you in the back…and a flower friend – the ones who truly love you and love to see you bloom.

They say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a bully. If you feel strong enough inside to stand up for yourself then don’t let someone walk all over you. But in turn don’t be horrible and become a bully in the process.

Bullying doesn’t just doesn’t happen when you’re young… People of any age fall victim and its so very sad. Cyber crime is on the up as people find it an easy way to target the vulnerable.

If we keep speaking about anti bullying, and looking after ourselves and our friends maybe one day it’ll be something we don’t have to worry about.

Get your head in the game

I have just realised my title is a high school muaical song but I’m going to roll with it.

So I really think making lists is something that everyone should do.

Even if you have a mind that remembers everything.

These little beauts are from Card Factory for £2 and they pretty much are all you need to have your shit together.

In tomorrows post I am going to be talking all things blogging and what things will be helpful during each month.

So come back tomorrow and I hope today is a good start to your week.

Bring your notepad and pen to take notes.

Dating Disaster

Have you ever been on a date and the person you thought you been talking to was just your type.

Whether you met them on a drunken night out and have arranged a first date via text or you have been online dating.

Then you meet up with them and they are nothing like you remember and or look nothing like their picture.

You get there and they are sat there smiling and you walk in like….

When you match with someone online or their profile seems appealing, so messages are exchanged and you start to find out about this person who is very easy on the eye.

Thing is, when you eventually pluck up courage to meet them it really doesn’t match up they don’t look like their photos and they were telling you a load of bull just to get a date…

I myself have been in some situations just like these and you just wanna run back out the door.

Some of you do and don’t look back, most of us would just sit down and feel so awkward for the duration.

I tell you if it was me I’d order my food and when it came out I’d have to do this to him

Dating can be so hard, and not knowing what you are letting yourself get into is kind of scary.

So my advice is… If you are going to date online or you’re just exchanging texts only tell them minimal details, don’t open your heart too much as you know it’ll get hurt. If you do want to meet them… Please take a friend and make sure they are in sight so you can leave swiftly if you feel really uncomfortable.

Mental health awareness

Since its Mental health awareness day today I thought I’d share a few quotes which I think could be quite helpful or relatable.

Never be afraid to let your guard down, take off that brave face and open up and talk. Never suffer alone.

Things insensitive people say on the outside that really doesn’t help you or your mental health. Concentrate on the inside and those who want to understand the issues you’re facing.

Please know that you can’t simply be strong everyday, it’s just impossible. Even the strongest have bad days.

Go on the day the best you can and seek nobody else’s approval.

Please remember to take care of number one… Which is you ♥️