Tag: anxiety

Standing up to a bully

After 17 years – that’s how long since I left school you would think that bullying may have been a thing of the past. To be honest I think it’s got 10 times worse.

I was sadly a victim of bullying from alot of my year at school all because my skin wasn’t clear. I was verbally abused and then come the end of school physically.

It won’t ever leave me, but I always think I never want anyone else to have the sadness and pain I did. I know in reality that there will be thousands in the world who will feel the same pain.

Here is how you can spot a cactus friend – those that pretend to be your friend then stab you in the back…and a flower friend – the ones who truly love you and love to see you bloom.

They say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a bully. If you feel strong enough inside to stand up for yourself then don’t let someone walk all over you. But in turn don’t be horrible and become a bully in the process.

Bullying doesn’t just doesn’t happen when you’re young… People of any age fall victim and its so very sad. Cyber crime is on the up as people find it an easy way to target the vulnerable.

If we keep speaking about anti bullying, and looking after ourselves and our friends maybe one day it’ll be something we don’t have to worry about.

Mental health awareness

Since its Mental health awareness day today I thought I’d share a few quotes which I think could be quite helpful or relatable.

Never be afraid to let your guard down, take off that brave face and open up and talk. Never suffer alone.

Things insensitive people say on the outside that really doesn’t help you or your mental health. Concentrate on the inside and those who want to understand the issues you’re facing.

Please know that you can’t simply be strong everyday, it’s just impossible. Even the strongest have bad days.

Go on the day the best you can and seek nobody else’s approval.

Please remember to take care of number one… Which is you β™₯️

Health update

Thought it had been a while since I did one of these updates on my health. So here’s the rundown.

ANXIETY

My appears from nowhere, for no rhyme or reason at the moment.

I get a tight chest, my thoughts are all over the place, I feel lightheaded and think I’m going to faint. The anxiety relievers I use are a stress ball type thing if it’s within reach at the time or the apps I’ve downloaded on my phone especially for anxiety. I’ll let you know them in a later post.

If I’m near my bed I lie down and listen to music or a guided meditation. It does help alot at the time.

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UROSTOMY

It was going swimmingly, no problems as such and then it started leaking. So bag changes were and still are a bit of a performance.

My kidneys seem to be doing overdrive, I have an ultrasound at the end of the month so I’ll know more about that then.

I have to have another major op on my skin and stoma in the next 4 months to sort the problems out.

I was iron deficient but from last test I’m OK but still gotta take these horrible tablets.

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M.E

It’s not been too bad actually I do however find myself going off to bed early like half 7 at night some evenings.

My voice goes and my voice gets sore when my body thinks I’ve overdone it. Some days I feel exhausted even after 8 hours sleep. But I find a happy medium most of the time where I can have a nap if needs be or just a lie down.

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FUNCTIONAL NEUROLOGICAL DISORDER

My mobility is very up and down, when my body cooperates its good when it doesn’t I have to either use my wheelchair all the time or go into hospital if it is a real bad episode. We have had our shower adapted, so showering is much easier. Before we had a tiny closed in cubicle now it’s a lovely big wet room.

Most days my body is aching. I use wheat bags or a hot water bottle as I find heat it a great healer.

I wish I could have someone on tap for massage because I find that relieves the aches too. I want a new matteress one that your body just molds into, but until I’ve had my op it’s on hold.

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So there you are the life of a chronically ill peach.

But blogging keeps me going and writing is my passion so I won’t stop.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

FEATURE FRIDAY WEEK 3

This is a mental health special of feature Friday. Read below these wonderful girls stories and why they love blogging

Helen from Helen loves

I hope the blog is a cosy, positive space, promoting wellbeing and self-reflection. I spent years letting anxiety and a lack of self-confidence get in the way of achieving my goals. Now, I’m all about finding tips and tricks to declutter your mind, create positive routines and boost confidence, so you can live the life you love.

HELENS BLOG helenloves.co.uk.

INSTAGRAM : www.instagram.com/_helenloves

TWITTER www.twitter.com/_helenloves

Nyxie from Nyxies Nook

I’m a mental health blogger who focuses on eating disorder recovery, depression, anxiety and general wellness of the self. The blog was started in March 2019 in a bid to raise awareness for mental illness such as Anorexia Nervosa and Anxiety, two such disorders I suffer from. However, what started out as a hobby, quickly turned into something much, much more!

Nyxie’s Nook has become a place to talk about all mental health issues and the struggles that come along with recovery. I cover a variety of subjects ranging from general wellness right up to more specific recovery-related content. I not only aim to cater to those in recovery but to people in all walks of life.

THE BLOG www.nyxiesnook.com

Twitter – twitter.com/nxyiesnook

FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/nyxiesnook

INSTAGRAM :www.instagram.com/nyxtrix

PINTEREST www.pinterest.co.uk/nyxiesnook

Leo from The anxious teach two

My blog is all about my very honest journey of battling my Mental Health diagnosis of anxiety and depression. I talk openly about the ups and downs of MH. I now work as a MH advocate as well as working full time as a teacher.

BLOG theanxiousteachtwo.home.blog

INSTAGRAM Instagram.com/leoooooallen

TWITTER: Twitter.com/theanxiousteac2

Watch out for who I have next Friday

We’re half way there

So it’s nearly the end of June, the 6th month of the year, half way through the year of 2019 and I think it’s great to look back and write down what things have occurred and how it’s changed you/ your life

So grab a pen and paper and write down the questions I’m going to answer, you’ll be pleasantly surprised

🌞 NAME THREE CHANGES YOU’VE ACTIVELY MADE ?

– I have cared less about people who don’t give two hoots about me

– I have gone through my big surgery to try better my health

– I have started looking into spiritual things and being more chilled than stressed

🌞 WHATS THE BEST ADVICE YOU’VE HEARD?

Don’t give up on what you love, on yourself and on those you love ( would I?… NEVER )

I guess on those days when you think why do I bother doing this, nobody cares, yes they do and the one person that it should really matter who cares is you,so stop doubting yourself .

🌞 ONE WORD TO DESCRIBE THIS YEAR SO FAR?

I’d have to say TRYING. Our family as a whole have been through the mill over the past 6 months so at this point in time I think that’s my word.

🌞 BEST MOVIE YOU’VE WATCHED THIS YEAR?

Without a doubt it has to be Bohemian Rhapsody, I adore Freddie Mercury and all he was. His music, his carefree attitude and all round from the film you can see he’d been through things we never knew. A true legend that will live on in many peoples hearts

🌞 FAVOURITE SONG?

SingridDon’t feel like crying

This year this song has appeared on the radio when I felt a bit tearful and it was almost like a sign to say cheer up, you don’t really feel like crying.

🌞 ONE GOAL YOU ARE STILL STRIVING FOR?

I want to make a difference to people who like myself suffer from anxiety so whether it’s a book or some project or I may even get creative and make some relievers ( they definitely help me ) so if I could make some for others that’ll be great.

I find a bit of reflection is therapeutic if you just let yourself go and just write ✍🏻

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Be the real you and stay true

So you are sat there in the tub, not feeling to great about yourself, about your self worth or self esteem. It has been knocked down by someone on social media.

Whilst nosing through your feed you notice that certain people are getting more likes on their pictures and you may think well i put in just as much effort in mine and i don’t seem to get half as much engagement. Feels like a kick in the teeth for all your hard work.

Please don’t sit there in a bad mood. It really isn’t the end of the world, give yourself 5 minutes of angry time and take these tips from me and use them each time you feel yourself not feeling worth it.

If you take my advice you wont ever get a down day again when it comes to scrolling through social media.

Much loves and always keep your chin up.

Til next time

My Anxiety Tips

If you aren’t a regular reader here you won’t know my anxiety history. I’ll leave my story of how it started here incase you want to have a nosey.

Let’s just say I’ve had it for going on 2 decades and I’ve picked up some helpful coping strategies.

❀️ When you feel an anxiety attack coming on, try and get out into the fresh air and sit down if possible. I get hot and lightheaded in an attack so fresh air and somewhere to perch my bum is much needed.

❀️ The main thing is to concentrate on your breathing to try bring it back to normal. So breath in for 4, hold for 7 and let out for 8. I thought oh my goodness I can’t breath in for that long. But it really does work.

β™₯️ I have always found music to be the perfect distraction when I’m anxious. In particular I like soft music like acoustic or love songs. Songs that have great lyrics you can focus on. I also love listening to a crackling fire on the relaxing sounds app. Alternatively if you want loud music to try drown out the anxious thoughts that helps too in my opinion.

β™₯️ You’ve all heard of the grounding tip of things you can see etc using all your senses. Well I’ve come up with this one.

In your bag have something that has a scent that makes you happy like your fave perfume or cologne. I do love lavender too so some essential oils are really handy too.

Have your happy photos on your phone in a folder easily accessible so you can look at them to bring your emotions back to not being stressed out.

Your phone will come for the next two senses which is listen – so it could be the music I mentioned, or some affirmations that you can pre record to remind yourself that everything is going to be ok.

Your mouth without a doubt will be dry in an anxiety attack so popping your favourite sweet in will definitely calm you down, tried and tested by me.

Last sense is touch. There are so many stress relievers out there on ebay/ wish / amazon. Having that at hand in your bag will come in so handy if that’s all you can manage to get during your attack.

β™₯️ Reach out and ask for help or just message/call someone you trust and say help me take my mind off things, distract me, make me laugh. Pretty sure you have one person you can turn to.

I really could go on and on and on but I think I’ll leave it there.

I’m always here for any of you if you feel the need to chat.

Hope this has been of some help.

Til next time