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You make me laugh

Laughing It really is the best thing to do every day.

I make sure I’ve done it at least once a day and then I know at some point that day I was happy.

It’s the best medicine and the cheapest form of therapy.

Here are 3 things that will make you laugh

  1. Friends with memories are great to get your giggle on
  2. Watching a funny video on YouTube or a comedy
  3. Looking back at old photos often brings a smile to my face

Always find someone in your life who’s going to make you laugh, I know that’s one of the qualities I look for in a friend or significant other. Unless you wanna be a sour puss and down in the mouth.

I think not.

Til next time

Posted in lifestyle, Personal, reflection, sexuality, words of wisdom

The size of your…

OK Hol, take a deep breath and type… So here goes

Whether it’s the size of your waist, your boobs or your penis. Does it really matter?

I have been on the slimmer side and the curvier side

I’ve had big boobs and barely there ones too

I don’t have a penis and never will 🙈 let’s just clarify. But if I did if I was a man I really wouldn’t be obsessing over its size.

So many of us really do stress over things like

oh no I’m a size 14 I used to be a 10. Or my boobs don’t look great in this top.”

It’s not your boobs it’s the top.

Embrace your shape no matter what it’s size is and appreciate all that it is and not dwell on what it isn’t.

While we are talking about your baps or your bulge. That special someone will love you regardless of size. So start loving it ❤️

Posted in Confidence, lifestyle, Personal, Positivity

Dare to bare all

I heard on the radio today is world naked gardening day but since I don’t do gardening I thought I’d chat about just being naked.

SLEEPING IN THE BUFF

For me personally until it’s baking hot in the summer I’m fully wrapped up in bed. If you have a significant other then their body heat keeps you warm so that’s another story. Then you have making love, whether you keep on a top or bare all.

WALKING ABOUT THE HOUSE NAKEE

Admittedly if the curtains and blinds are shut it’s the most freeing feeling and keeping in mind who’s about in your house and if they are comfortable with you in nothing but your birthday suit.

POSING FOR THE CAMERA IN THE NUDDY

If you are into modeling or if you want to have some photos just for you/your partner with your bare skin on show I don’t see what’s wrong as long as you keep them private as they could end up with the wrong eyes seeing them.

BEING STARKERS IN PUBLIC / NATURIST

Well obviously you just can’t walk down the road starkers as you would get arrested, but there’s naturist places where people can feel free in their bareness and then there are also nudist beaches to sun yourself with no white bits at all. It’s something I’m curious about but don’t think I’d ever have the balls in front of strangers.

So there you are a totally different subject to what I usually write about but you know me, don’t mind stepping out of my comfort zone.

Til next time

Posted in Confidence, creativity, Hair, lifestyle, Personal

Stand out in the crowd

It’s boring being normal, I haven’t ever wanted to fit in… OK at school I did, didn’t we all though.

I don’t want to be a sheep and follow whatever trend is in fashion this spring /summer. Having exactly the same outfit on as someone else around your neck of the woods doesn’t scream individuality. I mean if you want to then that’s up to you, but me personally I like to be totally unique.

Here below you can see I’m not your average norm.

I cut my hair off and donated it to the little princess trust and its going to take forever to grow and colour won’t stay in at the mo cos of my health so I got these 3 wigs on amazon.

I don’t even mind that people will probably be able to tell its not my hair.

It’s all about being your own person and that’s what I’m doing 😊

Please don’t be afraid to go outside your comfort zone.

You may surprise yourself.

Posted in Confidence, lifestyle, Personal, words of wisdom

Reinventing Yourself

When I say reinvent yourself I don’t mean make yourself into someone else / someone who will be totally unrecognisable to your friends & family.

I mean changing a few things in life to make it better for you and make you happier in the process.

❤️ Give your style a overhaul if you feel like your in a slump. I know that I need to do that as my wardrobe is a mish mash of all sorts.

❤️ If your hair colour has been the same or the length of your hair is getting you down give it a bit of life and treat yourself. It’s amazing how a hair app can alter you completely. I’m growing my hair but once I’m healed from surgery I’m definitely going to treat myself to a colour.

❤️ Re-evaluate the people you have in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself they need to go. Fill your life with inspiring people who make you feel happy everytime you see them. I have only the people who appreciate me and bring a smile to my face daily.

❤️ Changing the hobbies you have, if you had any at all to ones you’ll enjoy going to and not find them a chore. Whether it’s arts and crafts or something sporty you’ll find enjoyment in something and that’ll become your passion in life. I love writing poetry and when I’m feeling brave I sketch even though I’m not that good I find sketching therapeutic.

See just having a few changes in life can alter how you spend your days.

I hope you’ve found it helpful.

Til next time

Posted in Beauty, Chronic illness, Personal, Positivity

Loving you is easy cos your beautiful

I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.

We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.

Do you know what?

We are human and having a down day is very normal.

But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.

  • I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
  • Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
  • Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
  • Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
  • When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.

Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.

In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Posted in Confidence, fashion, lifestyle, Personal

What makes you feel confident and sexy?

In your bedroom whether it’s just you or you have the company of someone else too, don’t you like to feel confident and sexy yet comfortable at the same time?

I know i do.

Well i was approached by a lovely lady from UK LINGERIE and she asked if i would like to pick out a few bits from their website.

Being a bit curvy i wanted something that would compliment me but look sensual and pretty at the same time.

You would never know i have a huge surgery scar because the knickers are concealing it so well. The bra is so comfortable and gives enough cleavage without being too over the top, but to be fair i don’t have much always.

I am due to have a urostomy bag in the upcoming months and i no doubt will still feel amazing in these shorts plus supporting a bag too. This is the lepel fiore black and gold padded bra and the lepel fiore black and gold shorts

I also thought i don’t have any nice pyjamas that could double up as loungewear, so that’s what i went in search of and then i found these beauties.

These are the Dreamgirl off the shoulder pj set

They are the softest pair of pyjamas I’ve ever come across.

I have pulled the top up a bit so you could see the waistband on the bottoms. I’m a complete sucker for pink as you know but the bit of lace detailing just makes them even more lovely.

The off the shoulder look gives a bit of a sensual look about them.

I got these in a size 12 and they fit like a glove. My bra was also in my normal bra size so they really are true to my size.

I will definitely be purchasing fromUK LINGERIE in the future and a few of my friends have said they will too which is great.

I hope you enjoyed reading and I’ll see you in my next post.