My Anxiety Tips

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If you aren’t a regular reader here you won’t know my anxiety history. I’ll leave my story of how it started here incase you want to have a nosey.

Let’s just say I’ve had it for going on 2 decades and I’ve picked up some helpful coping strategies.

❤️ When you feel an anxiety attack coming on, try and get out into the fresh air and sit down if possible. I get hot and lightheaded in an attack so fresh air and somewhere to perch my bum is much needed.

❤️ The main thing is to concentrate on your breathing to try bring it back to normal. So breath in for 4, hold for 7 and let out for 8. I thought oh my goodness I can’t breath in for that long. But it really does work.

♥️ I have always found music to be the perfect distraction when I’m anxious. In particular I like soft music like acoustic or love songs. Songs that have great lyrics you can focus on. I also love listening to a crackling fire on the relaxing sounds app. Alternatively if you want loud music to try drown out the anxious thoughts that helps too in my opinion.

♥️ You’ve all heard of the grounding tip of things you can see etc using all your senses. Well I’ve come up with this one.

In your bag have something that has a scent that makes you happy like your fave perfume or cologne. I do love lavender too so some essential oils are really handy too.

Have your happy photos on your phone in a folder easily accessible so you can look at them to bring your emotions back to not being stressed out.

Your phone will come for the next two senses which is listen – so it could be the music I mentioned, or some affirmations that you can pre record to remind yourself that everything is going to be ok.

Your mouth without a doubt will be dry in an anxiety attack so popping your favourite sweet in will definitely calm you down, tried and tested by me.

Last sense is touch. There are so many stress relievers out there on ebay/ wish / amazon. Having that at hand in your bag will come in so handy if that’s all you can manage to get during your attack.

♥️ Reach out and ask for help or just message/call someone you trust and say help me take my mind off things, distract me, make me laugh. Pretty sure you have one person you can turn to.

I really could go on and on and on but I think I’ll leave it there.

I’m always here for any of you if you feel the need to chat.

Hope this has been of some help.

Til next time

Reinventing Yourself

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When I say reinvent yourself I don’t mean make yourself into someone else / someone who will be totally unrecognisable to your friends & family.

I mean changing a few things in life to make it better for you and make you happier in the process.

❤️ Give your style a overhaul if you feel like your in a slump. I know that I need to do that as my wardrobe is a mish mash of all sorts.

❤️ If your hair colour has been the same or the length of your hair is getting you down give it a bit of life and treat yourself. It’s amazing how a hair app can alter you completely. I’m growing my hair but once I’m healed from surgery I’m definitely going to treat myself to a colour.

❤️ Re-evaluate the people you have in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself they need to go. Fill your life with inspiring people who make you feel happy everytime you see them. I have only the people who appreciate me and bring a smile to my face daily.

❤️ Changing the hobbies you have, if you had any at all to ones you’ll enjoy going to and not find them a chore. Whether it’s arts and crafts or something sporty you’ll find enjoyment in something and that’ll become your passion in life. I love writing poetry and when I’m feeling brave I sketch even though I’m not that good I find sketching therapeutic.

See just having a few changes in life can alter how you spend your days.

I hope you’ve found it helpful.

Til next time

MARCH FAVOURITES

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As March has been a bit of a right off for me I thought I’d just wrack my brains for some things that have bought a smile to my face.

FOOD

Noisette potatoes… Had them in the hospital bit of nostalgia from my childhood. Like little balls of potato in batter. Delish.

SONG

Jim Reeves – I love you because. My poorly great aunt ( who’s had a stroke) said put Jim reeves on and when I played this she mouthed all the words. Bless her heart. The lyrics are beautiful 😍

LISTEN HERE

APP OF THE MONTH

Pottery lite – it’s therapeutic, you throw a pot then decorate it then sell it at a pretend auction. It’s rather addictive and is good if you want to fill in some empty time.

QUOTE

Purely because of what I’ve endured these past weeks.

Let me know down below something in your March that’s made you happy.

ROLL ON APRIL 🙈

Deep meaningful quotes that give you all the feels

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OK. So here are some meaningful quotes that I know you will be able to relate on some level.

Looking at someone past their looks and seeing what they are really all about.

Know that number 1 is you and don’t put someone else’s importance before your own.

You want to conquer something but you need the courage to do it. Spread them wings, get flying.

Finding the right people in life that will make you smile, lift you up and watch you improve in life.

You need to leave the past behind to be able to move forward. I know you’ve heard this one before probably from many people. It’s because it’s so true.

It’s not plain sailing for anyone. You need to know that everybody has bumps in their path of life. Struggles are everywhere, it’s how you handle them.

And that’s your life lesson for today 😂

Til next time

Ways to stay organised

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I never used to be organised, I would just shove stuff in a drawer or at the bottom of the wardrobe until I couldn’t fit anything else in then it was a case of having to sort it out. But as I have matured a bit over the years I think that nothing is worse than living in chaos.

So I have come up with some things that I like to keep on top of to make me feel like I have my shit together.

❤️Organise closet/cupboard/wardrobe wherever you put your clothes. I find putting them in sections of colour is gonna so when you are feeling red for example you can go to your red items and take your pick. Alternatively you can have one end for best and the other end for casual

❤️Making time for a Morning/evening routine. You don’t need a long list of things just some essentials that will make your day/night easier

❤️Sort apps on phone into folders -it’ll keep it looking tidy and you’ll know where all the necessary ones are

❤️Use a notepad or planner to make the most out of your day, with to do lists, meal plans, places to go and people to see.

❤️Delete unwanted photos/messages/numbers on your phone to free up space.

❤️If you can clean as you go, if not allocate some time in your day to do it instead of letting it all mount up. Delegate your load with others in the house if you don’t live alone.

❤️Keep tabs on your spending so you can see what you are getting that you need and can be justified as a reasonable buy and those that aren’t need to be cut back so you’ll have some savings for a rainy day.

❤️Keep your bedroom as spotless as you can as this is for relaxing and unwinding.

❤️Declutter anything that serves you no purpose anymore ( I’ll do another post on this soon. )

❤️Pack bag, food and outfit for the next day the night before do you won’t be faffing about in the morning.

I hope you can use these in your daily life to make it less stressful

Feel free to share your tips below

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Loving you is easy cos your beautiful

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I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.

We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.

Do you know what?

We are human and having a down day is very normal.

But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.

  • I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
  • Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
  • Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
  • Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
  • When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.

Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.

In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Inspirational DIY

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If only our house wasn’t carpeted… Or maybe in my dream house I could do one of these DIYs on the stairs.

I love quotes and positivity and seeing these on Pinterest I thought I’d share incase any of you thought of doing something similar.

Some people may think this looks a bit naff but I think it’s really quirky.

Anyway my beauts Here’s to the weekend.

Take time for you

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Apologies for the absence of my blog posts, my heads been elsewhere.

I am having my big op to remove my bladder this Monday coming so I have been trying to get all bits sorted as after I’m going to be rather sore and need to take time to recover.

So today I gave myself a to do list but not one that’s going to be too much – more of a self care one so here it is

2 HOUR PHONE DETOX

I have an app called offline that you can get on the play store if you are on Android, I am pretty sure there is an alternative one for iPhone.

It stops you from using your phone for however long you set it for and only allows a few calls you’ve selected to be accepted – and I allowed Spotify so I could still listen to music. This allowed me to step back from scrolling through my phone for a few hours and do something more practical. You really should give it a go.

MEDITATION

Not all meditation requires you to sit cross legged and going ‘omm’ but if it works for you do it. I sat up in a chair – a comfortable one, and played some crackling fire music. This soothes me for some reason and I just tried to focus on happy things, letting no negativity creep in. I done that for 20 mins and my mind definitely felt clearer after. Whatever sound or location you feel you can zone out in go with it, you might surprise yourself.

FACE MASK AND EXFOLIATION

I adore a face mask.Even if you don’t want to do a full on pampering it makes you feel like you’ve had a little bit of one. The 7th heaven ones are my favourite as they are inexpensive and come in loads of different varieties from peel off to mud. I used my body scrub from The Body Shop to make my skin silky smooth. It makes your body feel loved and not neglected just cos it’s under clothes at the moment.

SORT WARDROBE OUT

I literally had a quick nosey to see if there was anything that wasn’t going to be use to me after my operation, as having a stoma bag I’m not going to be able to wear tight things for some time. I decided that I would wait til it’s nearing the summer months and just buy myself some bits then and donate the winter bits I no longer need. Instead I sorted out my handbags and found £19.25 in change. Better than a smack in the mouth mother would say…I love her sayings.

RELAX WITH A BOOK AND MUSIC

I am saving this one until bedtime. I want an earlyish night so instead of watching the TV or YouTube I’m going to have a look on the kindle store and see what book I can get stuck into. The radio station I like to listen to at night is called THE BREEZE. If you like love songs and all the soppy songs then this ones for you, bit like Magic if you’ve heard of that station.

Taking time for yourself can be as hectic or as peaceful as you choose it to be. It doesn’t hurt every once in a while to do it.

Thanks for stopping by

Until next time

What makes you feel confident and sexy?

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In your bedroom whether it’s just you or you have the company of someone else too, don’t you like to feel confident and sexy yet comfortable at the same time?

I know i do.

Well i was approached by a lovely lady from UK LINGERIE and she asked if i would like to pick out a few bits from their website.

Being a bit curvy i wanted something that would compliment me but look sensual and pretty at the same time.

You would never know i have a huge surgery scar because the knickers are concealing it so well. The bra is so comfortable and gives enough cleavage without being too over the top, but to be fair i don’t have much always.

I am due to have a urostomy bag in the upcoming months and i no doubt will still feel amazing in these shorts plus supporting a bag too. This is the lepel fiore black and gold padded bra and the lepel fiore black and gold shorts

I also thought i don’t have any nice pyjamas that could double up as loungewear, so that’s what i went in search of and then i found these beauties.

These are the Dreamgirl off the shoulder pj set

They are the softest pair of pyjamas I’ve ever come across.

I have pulled the top up a bit so you could see the waistband on the bottoms. I’m a complete sucker for pink as you know but the bit of lace detailing just makes them even more lovely.

The off the shoulder look gives a bit of a sensual look about them.

I got these in a size 12 and they fit like a glove. My bra was also in my normal bra size so they really are true to my size.

I will definitely be purchasing fromUK LINGERIE in the future and a few of my friends have said they will too which is great.

I hope you enjoyed reading and I’ll see you in my next post.

MY FEBRUARY FAVOURITES

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You know what I’ll hold my hands up and say i nearly forgot to do my monthly favourites, think because we only get 28 days in February this year.

So of course I had some faves so here goes.

AIRLINE THE TV SHOW

Do you recognise these from back about 15 years ago at least. It was always on the tele and i enjoyed it then, then i found out that cbs reality on freeview had it on catch up so I’ve been binge watching Jane, Leo and Katrina.

SONG OF THE MONTH

I haven’t got a bloody clue how to pronounce her name but it’s been in my head lately its called don’t feel like crying, i guess it doesn’t help they play it on the radio loads. Its got a good beat, that’s why i think i like it.

NEW SET OF WHEELS

Not everyone will understand why it’s a favourite, but I’ve got an electric wheelchair for good weather and the other one was on loan. So money I’d saved at Christmas I’d kept to buy this…wasn’t too expensive but i only want it for A to B. Its so pretty in purple and it helps my mum alot because its lightweight.

BEAUTY FAVOURITE

I have literally had this for 3 days and I’m so in love with it. I always look for mascara that gives the falsie look without having to spend a fortune, Milani came through with this one on Beauty Bay for £10. Highly recommend it.

As always i leave you with my favourite quote

Hope your February has been full of memories 😘

Til next time