Question Time: Yes i have…No i haven’t

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ITS QUESTION TIME

I asked what kind of post you would like to see and a personal one was in favour so i came up with this one which you can get to know me a little better.

HAVE YOU EVER?

SKIPPED A CLASS: I tried not to make it a habit but sometimes i couldn’t help it and ended up going home at lunch and didn’t go back for the rest of the day (bullies didn’t help)

DONE DRUGS: Do i look that silly? Not something that’s ever appealed to me

SELF HARMED: I have had some low moments in my life as i have suffered with depression on and off  but its only ever been a slight thought never acted upon it.

SHOP LIFTED: I have only done it twice. Once when i was at my local sweet shop i put some sweets in my pocket when the shop keeper wasn’t looking, she must have had eyes in the back of her head cos i had to give them back. Second was a freebie on the front of the mag. Wasn’t allowed the magazine so i put the freebie in mums handbag. She gave me a bollocking when she found it.

WHATS YOUR FAVOURITE….

SHOW: I have two they are both oldies…The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air and the Golden Girls. Thanks to Amazon prime/Netflix for my Will Smith fix and Mum for buying me the Golden Girls box set.

FILM: Without a doubt it has to be Bridget Jones. The first one obviously. I have a few others that come very close that i’ll do in a later blog post. Bridget is so relatable,  quotable, funny and has some lovely eye candy too.

SONG: Everything i do (i do it for you) by Bryan Adams. I have loved it since i heard it on a jukebox when i was 6 years old. Now i am old enough to understand lyrics it has so much more meaning to it.

BOOK: The Lion, Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S Lewis. I thought of how magical it was the first time i read it that there could be a whole different world in the back of the wardrobe i soon found out there wasn’t.

WHATS YOUR OPINION ON….

GAY RIGHTS: Love has no labels so those who discriminate are the ones in the wrong. I applaud the LGBT community for standing up to the haters and not changing for nobody.

SECOND CHANCES: I believe everybody deserves a second chance but that’s it. No third, fourth or fifth. If you do you may as well have mug tattooed on your forehead.

SEX ON A FIRST DATE: If i was to have sex on the first date (which i don’t) it would certainly not turn into anything more serious than a one time thing. Love isn’t built on sleeping with someone when you only met them a few hours before.

DO YOU…

HAVE A STRONG ACCENT: Although i live in the countryside i don’t think i sound as broad as some of the people so i have that to be thankful for.

HAVE ANY SCARS: I have a massive scar from where i had my bladder operation. The actual Bladder stoma itself is tiny but where they opened me up is quite sizable but luckily my knickers hide it.

BELIEVE IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT: I really do believe that you could fall in love with someone just by looking at them but when you get to know them as a person is when you really know if its true love or just infatuation.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know me a little better.

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How to get through a Panic Attack

Following on from last weeks post: Anxiety: – My Personal Story  which I talked about my Anxiety and how it affects me I thought I would share some tips on how you can get through a Panic/Anxiety attack. 

THE RUBBER BAND TECHNIQUE

This can be used in two ways

  1. Have an elastic band around your wrist when you are out and about and if you start feeling anxious give it a ping and the shock from that will divert your attention from the anxious feeling you were having.
  2. Go out and buy an elastic band ball and keep it in your bag/pocket and use it as a stress reliever.

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THE MUSHROOM BAG

Next time you are in a supermarket grab yourself a couple mushroom bags from the veg section. It will be a very handy tool when you feel you are breathing a bit too fast and need to control your breathing.

Place the mushroom bag over your nose and mouth and do 6-12 normal breaths and really concentrate on these breaths as it will bring your anxious state back down. I use this method and find it very effective.

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If you notice when you are having a panic attack your mouth goes super dry. Sometimes a drink isn’t always at hand. A tiny packet of chewing gum fits pretty much anywhere and instantly moistens your mouth and alleviates the dry mouth symptom.anxiety-4MP3 PLAYER / MUSIC

I have this exact MP3 Player and it is full of feel good songs old and new and i find that when i am having a anxiety attack i need an instant distraction and music always helps take away the scary feelings i get during an attack.

I know they are a bit old school as most people use their phones but this will be there when your phones battery isn’t.

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PHONE A FRIEND

Put a few friends in a favourites folder on your contact list so when you feel anxiety rearing its ugly head you have someone to talk to and help calm you down. If you can’t phone anyone just put the phone up to your ear and pretend you are talking to someone and hope that your phone doesn’t start ringing.

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These are just a few things that you can use as distraction techniques while you are out and about.

I hope that you can take away a few of these and use them when you feel a little anxious. Don’t feel that you have to suffer alone. People won’t think any less of you if you have anxiety they will more than likely be glad you felt you could confide in them.

I HAVE ANXIETY BUT ANXIETY DOESN’T HAVE ME

Anxiety: – My Personal Story

Help me!!! My legs have gone numb…my hearts beating out my chest…I’m finding it hard to breath and I can’t swallow very well. I think i’m going to faint…no throw up…no die!

This was my last panic attack that happened only about 2 weeks ago. I was alone in the house and there was nobody about to shout out for help. I felt like I had no control of how my body was feeling and my thoughts were going into overdrive.

After having Anxiety/panic attacks for nearly 20 years you would think that I would be used to it. But each attack is just as scary and unpredictable. It could happen at any time and most of the time there’s no stopping it.

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Going back to the year of 2005 I remember the most horrendous panic attack I had in public and it was in Tesco of all places and to this day it gets in the way of going about my everyday life.

Anyway on this day my Mum and I had gone in to do our weekly shop and I always liked to push the trolley so I could go nosing about and sneakily put things in I liked. But on this day it was the worst thing to be pushing. We were right in the middle of quite a sizable supermarket and I needed to get out ASAP. The shelves looked like they were moving and my legs felt like jelly, the lights seemed so bright I thought I need to get out of here before I make myself look stupid.

I managed to look stupid. I had slid away from my Mum with the trolley and I headed down the aisles as fast as I could, Mum being unaware that I was having an anxiety attack. I had managed to leave the trolley by the tills and leg it outside onto the bench and shoved my head between my legs. I was feeling embarrassed, scared and ashamed. Mum found me and her trolley full of food.

I soon learnt that there is nothing to be ashamed of having Anxiety and to not be afraid to say I have a Mental Health issue. There is such a stigma about being scared to speak about it but until you have experienced it you wont fully understand.

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I am coming up 32 this year and having to battle with anxiety attacks on quite a frequent basis and having to plan everything around the anxiety and whether I am going to be ok in that situation is exhausting and my life is in no way normal to the people that are my age or even younger.

I struggle to go places alone, even walking to the shop on my own causes an anxiety attack so 9/10 times you’ll see me with someone. My 11 year old niece can stroll to her local shop on her own and it feels horrible that I can’t do it myself.

I had to give up learning to drive, even pull out of a first holiday abroad with my best mate all because of the dreaded thing that is Anxiety.

Life is bearable with little helping mechanisms that I will go through next week as this post is super long already.

Thank you for reading my story and this is only a snippet of it. i really should write a book i could definitely fill the pages.

Never frown upon a person who says they suffer with anxiety until you’ve heard how it affects them.