So you are sat there in the tub, not feeling to great about yourself, about your self worth or self esteem. It has been knocked down by someone on social media.
Whilst nosing through your feed you notice that certain people are getting more likes on their pictures and you may think well i put in just as much effort in mine and i don’t seem to get half as much engagement. Feels like a kick in the teeth for all your hard work.
Please don’t sit there in a bad mood. It really isn’t the end of the world, give yourself 5 minutes of angry time and take these tips from me and use them each time you feel yourself not feeling worth it.
If you take my advice you wont ever get a down day again when it comes to scrolling through social media.
When I say reinvent yourself I don’t mean make yourself into someone else / someone who will be totally unrecognisable to your friends & family.
I mean changing a few things in life to make it better for you and make you happier in the process.
❤️ Give your style a overhaul if you feel like your in a slump. I know that I need to do that as my wardrobe is a mish mash of all sorts.
❤️ If your hair colour has been the same or the length of your hair is getting you down give it a bit of life and treat yourself. It’s amazing how a hair app can alter you completely. I’m growing my hair but once I’m healed from surgery I’m definitely going to treat myself to a colour.
❤️ Re-evaluate the people you have in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself they need to go. Fill your life with inspiring people who make you feel happy everytime you see them. I have only the people who appreciate me and bring a smile to my face daily.
❤️ Changing the hobbies you have, if you had any at all to ones you’ll enjoy going to and not find them a chore. Whether it’s arts and crafts or something sporty you’ll find enjoyment in something and that’ll become your passion in life. I love writing poetry and when I’m feeling brave I sketch even though I’m not that good I find sketching therapeutic.
See just having a few changes in life can alter how you spend your days.
I say I am not scared but deep down I’m bricking it.
So on Friday I had to go to hospital to get ‘marked up ‘ which means they get a permanent marker and draw on where they think my stoma will go to and how high I wear my trousers so this is what my tummy looks like at the mo.
On Saturday I had to have my last substantial meal but also 3 of these build up drinks called fortisips. Luckily I like the 2 flavours they gave me – Apricot and vanilla. I must say it was hard drinking them as they are like a milkshake but fill you up a lot more.
I tried to distract myself from thinking too much about it and watched a bit of eye candy on the TV – Micky Flanagan. I know he’s not your typical hunk but there’s just something about him 😍
Today’s Sunday and I’ve got to seriously get sorted because tomorrow is the day.
I have to make sure all is packed in my bag the essentials and mum said she can bring things up at a later date when I’m feeling a bit more human. I have to stop eating properly at 2pm and can have jelly and ice cream til midnight if I am hungry. The dreaded drinks I have another 6 to drink today and then 2 Monday in the morning before surgery.
I’m going to enjoy a nice soak in the shower as I dunno when I’ll be able to have my next one. I bought Bohemian Rhapsody on DVD so that’ll be tonight’s viewing before I attempt to get a bit of shut eye before my 5am wake up call.
I’ve got some scheduled blog posts for 2 weeks so I hope you’ll enjoy them.
I’m speaking from past experiences but doesn’t January just put you out of sorts. Literally at the stroke of midnight New Year’s Eve and bam 💥 you’re in another month…another year nonetheless and I know some people just hate change. It’s like you are expected to put on a happy face and celebrate…
Don’t be ashamed, it’s ok to feel underwhelmed.
Here are 10 things to do to help you feel a little more happier if only a little bit
Write down 5 things that immediately bring a smile to your face
Eat your favourite meal – whether you cook it or order it in
Look through photos that hold great memories
Give yourself a little pampering – you’re worth it
Give your bedroom/living space a makeover
Phone a friend and just chat – it’s good to talk
Make yourself a playlist of music that gets your heart singing as well as you
Order yourself a few items of clothing, It’s surprising how much of a difference it can make to your mood
Get writing. Whatever is on your mind write it down, it’s s great form of self reflection and therapy.
Plan a day/evening out with a friend or family member. It’ll do you good to let your hair down.
Look at January like this it’s half way through the month now. You’ve made it this far. So take it day by day and appreciate the littlest things that do make you grin.
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I haven’t really had a September if I’m honest with you. Currently writing this in my hospital bed at nearly midnight. Body is just not cooperating with me read my post here to see whats been going on.
Anyways i wanted to write what did bring a smile to my face this month.
I have never met a woman quite like my Mum. Who will drop everything when someone is in need. She always makes me smile/laugh daily. Without Mum I’d definitely be a broken girl ( i mean woman – I’m nearly 33 believe it or not )
If you are a regular reader of mine you’ll know that a new electric wheelchair was something that I’ve wanted for a long time to help with my mobility issues and i needed to raise enough money for it. I have now got it and although I’ve only been on it a handful of times inbetween my hospital stays its made so much difference.
You don’t know how much of a favourite my bed is to me. It is so comfy and when i can’t move about on bad days my bed makes it all better. Having my home comforts is paramount. you really can’t fit in a holdall when hospital visits are needed. Its really true what they say there really is no place like home.
FILMS THAT CHEERED ME UP
Pretty woman because it’s such a great snuggle down film and i just admit Mr Gere is just a gorgeous human being and who isn’t jealous of Julia’s legs and luscious curls.
Bridget Jones Baby. I have watched this film a few times and it still makes me laugh. I always wanted to be Bridget cos she always ended up with Mr Darcy, lucky cow.
Lastly I’ll leave you with a song that means alot to me.
Hope you’ve all had a fab september and here’s to autumn in bloom in October and my birthday.