Be brave, be bold, be you

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Today I braved a bare face and then thought I’d put my new bikini on and show my urostomy bag too.

OK its only just peeping over the top but I felt confident and thought I’d take the opportunity while it was there.

I want to also say: Embrace your beauty flaws and all. You only have one body so appreciate it very very much inside and out 😘

Sorry its only a short and sweet post.

Til next time

April Monthly Favourites

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Apart from the few days of sunny sunshine here are some of my favourite bits.

FAVOURITE SONG

You know one of those songs that come on the radio or is recommended on a Spotify playlist and you think I really like this song. Well this one by Lissa Lo called All I need is one of those. I’ve got the chorus as my ringtone as I don’t like your bog standard ones 🙈

FAVOURITE FOOD

These have always been a fave but particularly this month. Needed a pick me up and they were there for me

FAVOURITE QUOTE

We worry so much about things that have happened and realistically we can’t do anything about so this quote says it all.

FAVOURITE MOMENTS

As I’m still healing from having my bladder removed I’ve not really ventured very far but I did manage one day with mum to go down town in the wheelchair and spend some cash.

I got a few toiletries in boots – make up can wait, then went and got some pjs in Peacocks and some undies. On our way home there is a St Margarets Hospice charity shop so we decided to have a nosey. I got about 6 or 7 items which I’ll show you once the weather’s warmer. I always like to give my unwanted clothes to them as that was the hospice my brother was at.

Little victories this month 😊

Oooo and I managed some chips from the chippy since my appetite has been a bit pants this was a real treat.

What’s been your faves this month?

Loving you is easy cos your beautiful

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I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.

We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.

Do you know what?

We are human and having a down day is very normal.

But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.

  • I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
  • Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
  • Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
  • Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
  • When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.

Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.

In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Take time for you

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Apologies for the absence of my blog posts, my heads been elsewhere.

I am having my big op to remove my bladder this Monday coming so I have been trying to get all bits sorted as after I’m going to be rather sore and need to take time to recover.

So today I gave myself a to do list but not one that’s going to be too much – more of a self care one so here it is

2 HOUR PHONE DETOX

I have an app called offline that you can get on the play store if you are on Android, I am pretty sure there is an alternative one for iPhone.

It stops you from using your phone for however long you set it for and only allows a few calls you’ve selected to be accepted – and I allowed Spotify so I could still listen to music. This allowed me to step back from scrolling through my phone for a few hours and do something more practical. You really should give it a go.

MEDITATION

Not all meditation requires you to sit cross legged and going ‘omm’ but if it works for you do it. I sat up in a chair – a comfortable one, and played some crackling fire music. This soothes me for some reason and I just tried to focus on happy things, letting no negativity creep in. I done that for 20 mins and my mind definitely felt clearer after. Whatever sound or location you feel you can zone out in go with it, you might surprise yourself.

FACE MASK AND EXFOLIATION

I adore a face mask.Even if you don’t want to do a full on pampering it makes you feel like you’ve had a little bit of one. The 7th heaven ones are my favourite as they are inexpensive and come in loads of different varieties from peel off to mud. I used my body scrub from The Body Shop to make my skin silky smooth. It makes your body feel loved and not neglected just cos it’s under clothes at the moment.

SORT WARDROBE OUT

I literally had a quick nosey to see if there was anything that wasn’t going to be use to me after my operation, as having a stoma bag I’m not going to be able to wear tight things for some time. I decided that I would wait til it’s nearing the summer months and just buy myself some bits then and donate the winter bits I no longer need. Instead I sorted out my handbags and found £19.25 in change. Better than a smack in the mouth mother would say…I love her sayings.

RELAX WITH A BOOK AND MUSIC

I am saving this one until bedtime. I want an earlyish night so instead of watching the TV or YouTube I’m going to have a look on the kindle store and see what book I can get stuck into. The radio station I like to listen to at night is called THE BREEZE. If you like love songs and all the soppy songs then this ones for you, bit like Magic if you’ve heard of that station.

Taking time for yourself can be as hectic or as peaceful as you choose it to be. It doesn’t hurt every once in a while to do it.

Thanks for stopping by

Until next time

5 things to quit right now

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These 5 things are going to make you happier if you stop doing them.

TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE

If you are trying to be a people pleaser all the time you really will start leading a sad life. It won’t do you any favours, you should be thinking of yourself and putting a smile on your face first.

FEARING CHANGE

When you are stuck in your ways and don’t venture out of your comfort zone you wont ever progress in life. You need to take a chance every once in a while, it won’t hurt you.

LIVING IN THE PAST

When you have things in the past control how you are living in the present, it stops you from enjoying what you should be. Leave the past where it belongs…behind you.

PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN

You should never ever put yourself down. You are enough, and you are a bloody wonderful human being. Remember this and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

OVER THINKING

Once your mind goes into overdrive it’s hard to get back to your normal way of thinking without eliminating what’s got you there. The thing to do is don’t let yourself get there in the first place.

I hope this will help you if you do some of these

Til next time

Don’t ever suffer in silence like i did

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Throughout my life, if I am being honest I have suffered quite a bit other than my health over the 33 years of my life.

Here are a few I’ll mention:

  • Bullied severely at school – police were involved come the end
  • Taken advantage of whilst drunk -shame on them
  • Sexually abused – Don’t worry I’m fine, there will always be wrong’uns
  • Had depressive moments – needed medication and outpatient therapy

I will forever remember these times it’s not easy to just forget those times in my life but it won’t ever define who I am or let it ruin my life. It happened and I can’t change what happened in the past.

I can however help those people who are struggling themselves. It’s the caring side of me. I wished I had more people about in my times of need. I had a few but not that one person who I could tell everything to.

HAVE A LISTEN TO ME

Please remember that there are people out there who can help you whether they are just an ear to listen, someone in a profession that can help you in the right direction or a friend/family member.

Believe it or not, they’ve probably encountered one of your problems and can aid you back to smiley happier you.

If you ever need someone to chat to online feel free to inbox me on the below social media pages

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Just breathe…Don’t panic

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Over the last few days i have needed to try something a little different to unwind.

My health has been rather pants of late. My body paralysis has been a bit all over the place and my bladder is being evicted in a few months…you know back in the health update saying we were trying to dodge a big op…well it’s got rather desperate and am in need of a urostomy – a pee bag. So anxiety has been a bit erratic as you can imagine.

So i have changed the way i try to relax. Using a few apps on my phone

INSIGHT TIMER

It gives you guided meditation for all sorts of different aspects of life and i really like the timer part of it. You set the time and the sound you find soothing and away you go.

DAYLIO

If you want to keep a track of your moods and activities to look back on then the daylio app is great. As you can see you can edit your moods as i have and also the activities are editable too – still need to do mine. You can also add a little bit about your day too, like a diary. I like it so far.

Don’t be afraid to change bits of your routine to help you along the way.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

LISTEN UP: 12 POSITIVE LIFE LESSONS

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I still wanted to do my podcasts this year simply because i know a few people who do listen to them really appreciate the advice and info i give in them.

So no matter how many people listened those couple that religiously listen it makes it all worthwhile.

Here is the links for this weeks episode on all these platforms.

LISTEN ON SPOTIFY

LISTEN ON SOUNDCLOUD

LISTEN ON ITUNES

Please do let me know if you listen in or if you enjoy them and any future ideas are always welcomed.

The podcast is every Wednesday.

A CHRISTMAS MESSAGE FROM ME TO YOU

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If you are reading this on Christmas Eve i’m glad you’ve got 5 mins to yourself to unwind before it all goes mad. I thought i would record a little message for you all.

A CHRISTMAS MESSAGE FROM ME TO YOU

I know that Christmas isn’t always a happy time for all.

I am trying to get as festive as I can, but the closer it gets to Christmas Day the more I think about my dear brother who won’t be here to celebrate. He loved acting silly at Christmas and I have fond memories of when we were younger. I hope a robin will pop in our back garden tomorrow ( Christmas Day) then I will find comfort and know his spirit is near.

So i will leave you with this playlist i found with a few of my favourite Christmas songs in it

I’ll be writing here again in a few days so keep your eyes open

Enjoy a little sing song or a dance about the house

til then my lovelys have a Happy Christmas xxx

Christmas is coming – Everyone is going mad

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This Christmas poem i wrote 4 years ago and just found it…

Christmas is coming

Everybody’s going mad

Spending hours shopping to see what bargins there are to be had

Stuff it I can’t afford it I’ll put it on the plastic card,

Knowing that in the new year problems with money will come and hit them hard

It’s great to see on Christmas Day

Your family smile and cheer

That all that effort just for one day

Is well and truly here

The food is on the table,

Each plate is piled up high,

Lunch has cost a fortune

You can’t help but lie

The day is finally over,

Now all you want to do is cry

Instead you reach for the mulled wine

and a good old mince pie.

New year arrives,

Your credit card bill comes in the post

You nearly can’t bring yourself to open it,

The thing you really have been dreading the most

Money is very tight,

The repayments are today

You pay the bare minimum,

The electric bill is in sight.

Thinking you don’t know if you can afford to have a little light.

Taking you back to that shopping trip

Where you went completely mad

Here’s some advice so take it

If you don’t you’ll wish you had

Your family and friends will love you

Whether you spent money on them or not

Don’t try and keep up with the Jones’

Just be there at Christmas and remember to smile a lot.

Hope you all get the jist of the poem

and pray that if you are reading this

It doesn’t describe you