Don’t be so cruel

A message to all people who think its ok to knock someone down just because they are different.

Read the whole thing including the quotes too

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You should never be frowned upon for the colour of your skin, the shape of your body or the colour of your hair.

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This is a beauty spot and a cute little heart

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But people turn their noses up or turn their backs when they see less than ‘their idea of perfection such as a birthmark or freckles on the face.

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 and should people be hated on for who they choose to love?

Of course not…

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People all over the world decide they are going to be cruel to somebody behind their computer screens

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When in fact it’s exactly the same as saying it to somebody face to face..

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It still hurts the same.

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No, you should never hate yourself and no one should ever make you feel like that.

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Do not troll in person, and don’t troll online, this is the only troll you should ever see.

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Please feel free to share this post to make people aware.

Much loves and thank you for reading xx

 

It began 3 years ago

Here you go here’s your stockings and gown, it won’t be long and you’ll be ready to go down. Sign right here to go under the knife, I swear this operation will change your life.

Today marks 3 years since I had my bladder stoma (also known as Mavis) I will do a video in a week or two to tell you all about it and the struggles along the way.

I just thought it was an occasion to write about as it has impacted my life since 2015.

I couldn’t be happier with it and I really couldn’t live without it.

Happy Sunday

Much love…Me xxx

Oh and here’s a quote I found quite fitting.

Whats on my mind?

All that has been written here today is just off the top of my head, no filter just whatever is on my mind. 

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It’s now close to 3 weeks into the new year and it hasn’t been the new year I was totally envisioning, but nevertheless its been pretty positive one most of the time.

I started doing weight watchers New Years Day and it wasn’t that I thought I was fat, cos I’m not. I have just got some unwanted inches from being sat/led down a lot. Not being able to sleep in my bedroom upstairs because of the paralysis in my legs and having my bed in the lounge next to the kitchen was asking for a bit of weight gain. I would comfort eat because I felt sad of how life had changed for me in a blink of an eye. Anyway, i am losing weight which is good. Slow but steady and that’s how I prefer rather than all at once.

I’ll keep you updated as my journey with that goes on.

Having a few chronic illnesses I guess they are going to rear their ugly head at some point, and it seemed like January was the month that my anxiety picked. I have been worrying about the future and what life will be like with a disability and will I ever be back to normal. The thing I need to get in my head is what will be will be and just to be positive, not to focus on the things that get me down and I can’t control.

I have also had a bit of writers block of late, so if you were wondering where my blog posts were – its because I hit a wall. I know what I want to write about but putting the words down has been hard. However, i think my mojo is back and I am ready to give blogging my all. I’m going to write from the heart and not whats on trend as I know there are so many people who just follow suit. I always look at writing as being an outlet and also to give people my honest opinion/advice and on occasions make them laugh.

Just so you know, from now on it will be whatever I think about writing on that day and I hope you will still enjoy reading it. Some occasions it may be scheduled but on a whole I want to bring it to you from the brain to laptop to you FRESH.

Keep an eye out for videos and audio messages too as I love adding personal touches to every post.

Love you all and appreciate you reading.

Til next time…

hol

Happy The Journal – My First Impression

I am so over the moon with this fabulous journal I had for Christmas from my brother…

The bro did good. More like his girlfriend did.

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So if you haven’t seen or heard of it before it is one of Fearne Cottons creations that she has put together of positive thinking in a journal type way. It is really quite clever and different. I haven’t seen one like it before.

I thought I would give you a first impression of what I think of it and a peek inside of it too.

This is my first page…It gives you a whole page to write down your wishes for the year ahead but instead of putting ‘I want’,  you write it as if it has actually has happened so in mine you can see my positive points. I came up with 10. It took me about half an hour to wrack my brains to come up with some good ones.

Throughout the journal you will see these quotes which are not only positive but powerful too. I always get that instant boost when I read a good quote.

Heres an idea if you don’t always have your book to hand you could copy the quotes down into the notes section on your phone and when you need that bit of positivity you have it right there.

Skipping to February – Each month has a theme and you probably can guess from the prompts above that Feb is Love. Even if you aren’t in a relationship they are still relatable as most of this book is pointed towards self-love and improving your life.

At the end of each day you will have a face with no mouth… here you can put how your mood was on that day and then when you flip back through its a reminder of how you felt on that day.

As you can see the pages are a bright array of pastel colours but unfortunately its a cold and miserable day with little sunlight so I just had to adjust mine to look semi-decent.

You can buy this Journal in pretty much every bookstore there is worldwide. It’s also kind to your purse too just over a tenner and has so many pages of content its well worth spending your pennies on.

If you like writing/journaling and a bit of self-development then this is going to be just the book for you.

Thanks for stopping by

Until next time…

hol

MAKE 2018 YOUR YEAR

Please don’t look back at this year in disappointment at what went wrong or what you didn’t achieve.

The past can not be changed but you can shape your future.

2018 will be your year if you put the effort in. It’s not just going to do itself…very few are that lucky.

Take it a month at a time and aim to write some goals down that you want to smash. make them manageable, break them down into points if needed. Trust me it’s so much easier. Don’t go overboard with too many goals maybe 3/4 is a sensible number.

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Grab yourself a diary/ planner to write down all the things in the week you have to do. So you got your organisation on paper as the head can get a bit muddled at times. I had my planner pictured below for my birthday and I have made use of it every day since. It gets you into a routine and when you have completed all that’s on your weekly page you can feel accomplished which in turn makes you feel happier.

This one is from Hobbycraft but there’s so many out there to choose from you are spoilt for choice really.

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You also want to make plenty of memories too and this little D.I.Y is perfect for anyone at any age. Grab a empty jar, you choose how big you want it. Write on a label something about memories or find some printables online like i did and stick it on your jar. Then start making memories – don’t forget to write them on a piece of paper and put them in your memory jar. When it is full or at the end of 2018 you can read them all and smile.

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MAKE 2018 ONE TO REMEMBER

Here’s to health, happiness and magical memories.

Til next time…

hol

My Christmas Wish To You

I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and I will be back shortly after Christmas to do a few posts before we start the new year…

I’ve been blogging every day lately and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it. However I do need to sort out a schedule of some sort for 2018.

Eat as much as you can without popping on Christmas Day. It’s the only time you can get away with it without someone saying haven’t you ate enough already.

Spend it with those that matter the most. It’s not all about presents it’s about love. Well it is for me. Presents are just a bonus.

Much love and enjoy xx

 

5 SELF HELP BOOKS TO START OFF YOUR NEW YEAR POSITIVELY

Self-help books aren’t for everyone but I am definitely one that loves a bit of guidance and because this year for me has been a bit crappy I am going into next year with a positive mind and positive outlook on things.

These 5 books are going to be my holy grails and I will be using them daily. In the past I haven’t been much of a bookworm but things change.

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 LITTLE BOOK OF CONFIDENCE BY SUSAN JEFFERS 

I bought this book a couple of years ago and when sorting out my book box there it was at the bottom. Its no bigger than a pack of cards so no matter how small your bag is you can easily fit it in there for when you need that boost of confidence.

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        A THOUSAND PATHS TO MINDFULNESS BY LIZ DEAN

My friend was telling me about mindfulness back along and i thought she was talking a load of twoddle and she gave me this book to keep and said you wont want to leave home without it. So when i went into hospital one of the activities other than therapy was mindfulness and i got to learn what its all about. It really helps the stress levels and focusing on the here and now.

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START WHERE YOU ARE BY MEERA LEE PATEL

I started this about a year ago and then put it to one side and didn’t follow on with it but now i’m in the right head space i have put it with my books to work on this year coming. It has allsorts of questions about you as a person on whats important to you and where you want to be. I think its fab and look forward to completing it.

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DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE BY MEGAN KAYE

This one is quite new to me but i have had a flip through it and done a few of the quizzes. It is full of things to do in there to discover the real you. I believe i got this from Amazon or maybe it was The Works.  Either way i highly reccommend buying one.

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365 DAYS OF POSITIVE THINKING BY JENNY KELLETT

I just downloaded this book onto my kindle and it was free so that was the added extra.  I  have decided that I will start it on Jan 1st as it has a page a day for the whole year. There isn’t much on each page but just enough to give you enough positivity and pause for thought. I’m really looking forward to putting this one into my daily routine.

Let me know if you have any Self-help books that you think would be worth reading.

Til next time…

hol