Standing up to a bully

After 17 years – that’s how long since I left school you would think that bullying may have been a thing of the past. To be honest I think it’s got 10 times worse.

I was sadly a victim of bullying from alot of my year at school all because my skin wasn’t clear. I was verbally abused and then come the end of school physically.

It won’t ever leave me, but I always think I never want anyone else to have the sadness and pain I did. I know in reality that there will be thousands in the world who will feel the same pain.

Here is how you can spot a cactus friend – those that pretend to be your friend then stab you in the back…and a flower friend – the ones who truly love you and love to see you bloom.

They say it takes a bigger person to walk away from a bully. If you feel strong enough inside to stand up for yourself then don’t let someone walk all over you. But in turn don’t be horrible and become a bully in the process.

Bullying doesn’t just doesn’t happen when you’re young… People of any age fall victim and its so very sad. Cyber crime is on the up as people find it an easy way to target the vulnerable.

If we keep speaking about anti bullying, and looking after ourselves and our friends maybe one day it’ll be something we don’t have to worry about.

Random Q and A

I love a little Q and A, get to know people/yourself.

Found on good old Pinterest I picked a few from a list, so here goes.

1. Crush? Well I’m a bit old for crushes but there is one man I like to swoon over every time I see him 😍

2. Eye colour? Green, with a tiny bit of brown at the top. I get a lot of compliments on them.

3. Last time I cried? Watching someone die of cancer on a soap ( a week ago)

4. Biggest fear? Its a toss up of moths and sick (Eww to both)

5. Last song I listened to? Taylor Swift – Bad Blood. Was on one of my playlists on Spotify.

6. Relationship Status? Single, it’ll have to take an amazing person to change that.

7. Are you currently happy? No I’m scared I have the dentist in a few hours that includes alot of drilling. Must take earphones.

8. Favourite colour? If you haven’t guessed already by the theme of the blog it’s pink… Been obsessed since I was about 12. If its pink I’m having it.

9. Pet peeves? Chamming (eating with your mouth open), loud breathers (I know we got to breathe) 🙈, polystyrene cos I hate the way it feels and breaks (kind of a phobia I guess)

10. Last book I read? Not that type of girl by Lena Durham. It was well interesting. Still not completely finished it but that’s me and books all over.

Me swooning over that man 😍

Thanks for stopping by, til next time xx

October Favourites

October is coming to a close and November is waiting in the wings

I am quite sad October can’t go on for longer it’s my favourite month of the year

Anyways let’s get back to why we are here.

These things brought me joy this month.

PUMA TRAINERS

Mum asked me if there was anything specific that I wanted for my birthday… Well I had seen these on ASOS and said these would be perfect (for when we in England get dry days) so this was what she got me. Normally I don’t get any named trainers but they were pink and they did half sizes so I was happy I could get them.

WATERMELON LOLLY

I think I may have mentioned these before. They are by Rowntree – the people who make fruit pastilles they make these ice lollies too.

They are so bloody yum and I think about 60 calories so don’t worry if you are on a healthy diet these would be a great pick for a treat.

SELF CARE BOOK

I got some books a couple of weeks ago as I need to get my nerd on. I’m a writer, but when it comes to books I need to try concentrate on getting it finished. This one is a self help book and at the mo it’s got 5 stars from me. It’s small enough to fit into a inside coat pocket or a handbag.

BOURJOIS LIP DUO SCULPT

Last month I went in search for a lipstick that was autumn appropriate in its shade and long lasting. The shade is like the colour of my nails. I believe in this range there’s another 2 or 3. Superdrug or boots normally have make up offers so go spoil yourself.

ROCKETMAN ON DVD

This was another thing I had for my birthday, this was from my Sister.

If you haven’t heard of it it’s a story of Elton John’s life. It was quite sad to see what he went through to get to where he is now . It did have Happy moments in it and alot of his music. So if you like films that are like musicals, you’ll love this one.

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

Not much of an explanation needed just some people are worth the second chance and some are not worth your energy.

I hope you have had a lovely October…

Feel free to leave below something that made your month

Til next time

34 things I have learnt in 34 years

Since I have just turned 34 I thought it would be good to tell you some things I have learnt in those years that I think are lessons for life and can apply to anyone of any age too.

Feel free to take note of these on paper or your phone

Ok so let’s jump right in

1. Not to be afraid of where you live

2. Nobody is perfect

3. Time stops for nobody

4. Never judge someone by face value

5. Take life one step at a time, don’t rush it.

6. Older people have valuable advice…that’s why they get called wise owls

7. Never feel pressured, stand your ground

8. Memories are so very precious, go make them

9. Sometimes it’s worth risking it for a chocolate biscuit

10. Always be proud of who you are

11. Cluttered rooms means cluttered mind

12. Be the friend you’d like to have

13. The first person you fall in love with should always be yourself

14. True friend stand the test of time and distance

15. Budgeting your money will help you in the long run

16. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice

17. Document…so you can look back at a later date and reflect

18. Say yes more

19. Spend time with your loved ones…share the love

20. Don’t lose that bit of your inner child

21. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok

22. You are not defined by a number

23. Finding out what love and heartbreak feels like and learn from it

24. Thoughts are powerful so make them positive

25. Nobody has their shit together 100% of the time

26. It’s never too late to learn a new skill

27. It’s best to have a handful of great friends than lots of half ass friends

28. Take time for you

29. Don’t ever try to fit in, you were born to stand out

30. Use your creativity and run with it as far as it will go

31. Remember how fortunate you are

32. Life is not a goal it’s a journey

33. Laughter is the best medicine / therapy

34. If it’s not ok it’s not the end

I have so many lessons that I literally would be here all day typing away. Please know that in life you need to have picked up things along the way that makes you think yes that makes so much sense, and then apply them accordingly.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

The blog has….

Hey,
after you’ve had a laugh at my drawing I wanted just a little catch up with you all.

You may have noticed by the look of my blog that I’ve given it a little makeover

Click here after reading and you’ll see what I mean
www.holzieloves.co.uk


Seeing the home page you will see a little intro in my own little style, a sneak at my other social media posts and I let you know how you find my other posts whether you are on a phone or computer.

I want to make my blog as informative yet fun.

You know I love to write so I will be posting whenever I get inspired to.

I appreciate each and every one of you who take the time to read my blog.

Til next time

Bullied for being me

After watching the tear jerking documentary with little mix Jesy Nelson ‘odd one out’ it didn’t half bring back all the feelings of what happened to me.

Life from the age of 11 was not how I envisioned it to be. I guess starting puberty that early didn’t help.

I was pretty much the only one for a few years that suffered with acne which of course made me the target for name calling and just making me feel like shit.

I had even a group of so called friends turn on me and taunt me inside of school and out. Our phone had to be unplugged as they were prank phoning every time you put it down for about 5 hours a day of a weekend 😔 it was horrendous looking back

These would in turn be the ones who beat me black and blue 2 weeks before my exams. My prom photos weren’t the ones I wished for as my face was still too sore for make up.

It took a good 5 years to actually get them out my head and life. But I don’t know why it still happens daily to people. It’s just not called for and it makes me so fierce when you see people take their lives because of it.

Bullies are just insecure about their own lives and instead of facing their problems they make sure someone else is miserable too.

My advice is to never suffer in silence. You deserve a happy life so don’t be made to feel miserable in the process.

Beautiful them beautiful me

I just wanted to do a quick post today.

I could look at these two pics I have of Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe and compare the shit out of how beautiful they are and how so many people including myself think they are the ultimate beauty icon, Which they are.

But instead I look at this pic and see the beauty in myself, maybe not perfect but I appreciate all that I am even when my skin is not flawless like theirs I can still be as beautiful as I want to feel.

Til next time