Posted in creativity, DIY, Personal, Positivity

Open me when…

Ok, so i guess you have stumbled across something like this before on the net where you write a letter to your significant other to open at certain times in their life.

Well you know me i like do do things a bit differently so this is my DIY i’m setting myself and i’ll share the first letter with you in a min.

It’s writing letters to yourself. It’s not weird…its really taking care of you, and when you need that bit of guidance or to be perked up reach for that certain letter in your pack.

you can look at pinterest for inspiration or get it right from the heart. There is no right or wrong way.

So here is my first one…

You kind of get the jist of it right? It’s to pick you up when you need it the most.

It’ll be great if some of you decide to do this.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Posted in Health, lifestyle, mental health, Personal, self care

Self care is the best care

Self care is not just all about putting on a face mask and pampering yourself, but my goodness doesn’t that sound like a great idea.

Self care is about taking care of you as a whole and making sure you are being kind to every part of you inside and out.

I’ve come up with a list of things to do on days when you need that extra more care and attention…mind, body and soul.

So here goes

  • Unplug your phone/ put it on do not disturb for an hour or two just let your mind just be
  • put on some relaxing music whether it’s acoustic or panpipes or just instrumental just enjoy the sounds.
  • Do a brain dump – grab a notebook and just unload what’s in your head onto one page it’ll help clear your head.
  • write poetry/ song. You will find it so therapeutic.
  • light some scented candles or diffuse essential oils. Get your area smelling serene.
  • Find an app to destress you I think insight app is great. A must try.
  • self massage, the bits you can get to just add moisture to it with either baby oil or a body lotion. Make your body feel loved.
  • Practise positive affirmations whether you say them out loud on in your head it will keep you in a positive mindset.
  • Do some yoga or some form of stretching, you’ll find that this will get rid of any tension built up inside.
  • Take a nap if needs be, it’s will renew your energy and get you in the mood to take on anything the day has in store for you
  • Make yourself a self care box of all things you love and that make you smile. If it fits put it in there.
  • Just enjoy your own company doing what ever your heart desires whether it’s watching a movie, eating your favourite food or singing along to your favourite songs.
Posted in Confidence, lifestyle, Personal, Positivity

Dare to bare all

I heard on the radio today is world naked gardening day but since I don’t do gardening I thought I’d chat about just being naked.

SLEEPING IN THE BUFF

For me personally until it’s baking hot in the summer I’m fully wrapped up in bed. If you have a significant other then their body heat keeps you warm so that’s another story. Then you have making love, whether you keep on a top or bare all.

WALKING ABOUT THE HOUSE NAKEE

Admittedly if the curtains and blinds are shut it’s the most freeing feeling and keeping in mind who’s about in your house and if they are comfortable with you in nothing but your birthday suit.

POSING FOR THE CAMERA IN THE NUDDY

If you are into modeling or if you want to have some photos just for you/your partner with your bare skin on show I don’t see what’s wrong as long as you keep them private as they could end up with the wrong eyes seeing them.

BEING STARKERS IN PUBLIC / NATURIST

Well obviously you just can’t walk down the road starkers as you would get arrested, but there’s naturist places where people can feel free in their bareness and then there are also nudist beaches to sun yourself with no white bits at all. It’s something I’m curious about but don’t think I’d ever have the balls in front of strangers.

So there you are a totally different subject to what I usually write about but you know me, don’t mind stepping out of my comfort zone.

Til next time

Posted in Beauty, Chronic illness, Personal, Positivity

Loving you is easy cos your beautiful

I want you to really digest what I’m about to say.

We all have had those days when we really can’t stand to look at ourselves in the mirror, we don’t feel pretty in the slightest.

Do you know what?

We are human and having a down day is very normal.

But I want you to really think about the person that you are inside and out.

  • I want you to love all that you are, flaws and all. There’s not another you out there.
  • Take compliments on board, I know when I give someone a compliment I truly mean it and don’t just go round saying it for fun.
  • Have daily mantras that you can either say out loud or to yourself (for example yes I can) click here for a list of ones you can use
  • Give yourself a pep talk on the bad days and remind yourself you are good enough and you are worth it.
  • When you ooze self confidence you will feel a sense of happiness in life and your wellbeing will totally alter. Going from self conscious to self confidence will take time but you will feel the benefits of it.

Don’t ever doubt your worth, and don’t let anybody tell you you are anything less than fabulous.

In Minnie Ripertons words as I have titled this blog post- loving you is easy cos you’re beautiful.

Thanks for stopping by

Til next time

Posted in Confidence, fashion, lifestyle, Personal

What makes you feel confident and sexy?

In your bedroom whether it’s just you or you have the company of someone else too, don’t you like to feel confident and sexy yet comfortable at the same time?

I know i do.

Well i was approached by a lovely lady from UK LINGERIE and she asked if i would like to pick out a few bits from their website.

Being a bit curvy i wanted something that would compliment me but look sensual and pretty at the same time.

You would never know i have a huge surgery scar because the knickers are concealing it so well. The bra is so comfortable and gives enough cleavage without being too over the top, but to be fair i don’t have much always.

I am due to have a urostomy bag in the upcoming months and i no doubt will still feel amazing in these shorts plus supporting a bag too. This is the lepel fiore black and gold padded bra and the lepel fiore black and gold shorts

I also thought i don’t have any nice pyjamas that could double up as loungewear, so that’s what i went in search of and then i found these beauties.

These are the Dreamgirl off the shoulder pj set

They are the softest pair of pyjamas I’ve ever come across.

I have pulled the top up a bit so you could see the waistband on the bottoms. I’m a complete sucker for pink as you know but the bit of lace detailing just makes them even more lovely.

The off the shoulder look gives a bit of a sensual look about them.

I got these in a size 12 and they fit like a glove. My bra was also in my normal bra size so they really are true to my size.

I will definitely be purchasing fromUK LINGERIE in the future and a few of my friends have said they will too which is great.

I hope you enjoyed reading and I’ll see you in my next post.

Posted in Confidence, lifestyle, love, Positivity, words of wisdom

You should go and love yourself

I haven’t always been one of those people that say love yourself and all your imperfections. Truth is i used to hate mine and i couldn’t stand looking in the mirror, having my photograph taken, i really didn’t love myself at all.

These days though i really do appreciate my body and my outer appearance for what it is.

I bought this back along from Avon i think. I liked it said i love you 3 times around the ring. Reminded me of the lyrics from Natasha Bedingfields song – These words

I didn’t need someone else to buy it for me. It’s for self love that i now have for myself.

I couldn’t praise enough about loving who you are as it’s so horrible feeling like you are not pretty enough or not worth it.

YOU ARE

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Til next time

Posted in Beauty, Hair, lifestyle, Personal

So this happened today

I have been growing my hair for the last 2 years and got it the longest its been since i was about 12.

I had a throwback photo come up on my facebook memories a couple weeks ago and it was me with super short hair. I saved the pic to my phone and went back to it a few times to admire it. It really did used to suit me. Could i pull it off again?

My hair today went from this length…

Then put in pigtails and snipped off.

A whole ten inches. I have decided to donate it to the little princess trust to help them to make a wig for children with cancer. It’s such a worthy cause.

Here’s my new hair do courtesy of my sister – who also happens to be a hairdresser.

It’s one thing i can add to my random act of kindness list 💕

What’s a random act of kindness you’ve done?